r/stopwatchingporn

It’s Friday!!

Is porn on the menu for today or the weekend?

Friday nights used to mean a 12 pack of Molson Ice, cocaine and a lot of porn.

What a party!!

And then Saturday was recovery hangover with even more porn.

Weekend ruined me for a long time. If I could get through one, then the next one would def kill me.

Something about 2 weeks. I always gave in.

Some days it was every day. When things were good it eased up a bit.

Obviously tied to stress though I didn’t see it.

Just thought I needed it and I guess I did.

It seemed so big, so monstrous. So impossible to stop.

But yet, it’s not.

The worst urge you can imagine…. gets totally weakened when you actually look at it and feel it.

The story IS you can’t handle it but you can.

That’s the story. That’s the story you need to pop and deflate.

Urges are possible when you know how to feel them.

And that’s just the feelings part.

The mental part, that’s the fun part because when you see that a thought is just a thought you can choose to believe it or not… man that’s the powerful part.

Your brain can scream at you and when you know it’s just a thought… and when you see why your brain is doing this… you breathe and calm your body and let it pass.

Calm your body and your mind will follow.

The mental part is the fun part because you learn to think differently.

You understand that the world is just a bunch of circumstances that you get to think why you want instead of reacting to everything.

It’s amazing and life changing.

Have an AMAZING weekend.

When the urge hits, ask why is porn the answer right now? What am I avoiding or not feeling?

When you have an urge for porn you can either fight it, feed it or feel it.

Fighting it makes it stronger and guarantees it'll keep fighting you back until you give in.

Feeding it keeps the addiction cycle going and makes you mentally weaker.

And feeling it allows you to grow stronger and re-wires your brain so that it starts to get the message that porn isn’t the answer.

Here’s what you can do next time you have an urge.

Set a time for 1 minute and just feel it. Just sit there and experience that urge. Feel it and notice how it feels in your mind and body.

Observe all the physical sensations in your body.

Is your heart beating fast or slow?

Is your breathing fast or slow?

How is your skin temperature?

Are you aroused and what does that feel like?

The more you can observe it, the easier it is to notice it vs be completely sucked into it and drowning in it.

Feel all of that for 1 minute.

When you’re done ask yourself 2 questions

• What am I trying to avoid by watching porn right now? What emotion am I trying to not feel by going to porn?
• If I watch porn right now, what will I be teaching my brain?

Answer those questions and then you’re free to do what you want.

You can do another minute, you can do something completely different and if you really want to watch porn.

Whatever you do, know that you’re deciding on purpose.

You’re choosing out of intention, not reacting out of habit.

These are the first steps toward freedom.

Come check out my webinar called Never Watch Porn Again

Signups @ https://www.NeverWatchPornAgain.com

You can go through life reacting to everything.
Or you can learn to respond to things the way you wish.

We all know that willpower isn't the answer to quitting porn right?

The best analogy I know about quitting porn with willpower is that willpower is like a gas tank. It's full in the morning and empty by 10pm when you really really need it.

The other point most people don't think about is by using willpower, you're resisting, fighting and trying to be stronger than the urges.

Other than that being not a great long term strategy, you're using up ALOT of energy and it doesn't feel good at all.

I mean, if I could design my own method of quitting porn, I'd want it to be easy and simple and not alot of struggle or fighting. Or any at all for that matter.

I'd not want to have to FIGHT anything, I just want to stop doing the thing I don't want to do and have it be easy & simple.

All that's possible when you're not using willpower.

When you choose to fight, resist or ignore urges, you're automatically making it more difficult for yourself.

Give up the fight, drop the rope as they say.

Make it easy on yourself by not resisting, just allowing the urge to be there until it isn't.

Breathing through it, calming your body so that your mind will follow IS the way to make it simple, easy and painfree.

It's all a choice.

I've a webinar where I talk about all of this and more.

I talk about how to get free and become a man who doesn't need porn anymore.

It's called Never Watch Porn Again and you can sign up to see it @ NeverWatchPornAgain.com

The day I quit porn wasn't the last day I quit porn.

Years ago I had a moment where I realized I could choose to feel shame or not.

Having just returned from a 12 step meeting for porn, I had slipped within 10 mins of getting home.

It was confusing because I was feeling so good from the meeting. I was so confident I was winning the battle so to speak.

In the moments afterwards I sat there and I though "Oh @#$@#$ I'm going to have to feel like sh*t again"

It felt like a freight train bearing down on me. The guilt and shame was heading my way to crush me.

In a split second I realized I didn't need to feel bad about this. I realized I ddin't need to feel shame or regret or anything really.

I realized I could choose how i wanted to feel. and in a split second I side stepped the shame train and let it past.

That moment was revolutionary for me. It was the moment that the seed was planted that I had more control over my thoughts and emotions than I knew.

I didn't stop that day, I'd have to learn many more lessons but that was the day I quit porn.

That was the day it all started.

It took longer than I thought or wanted. There were many more painful lessons to learn.

But in the end, the seed grew and I learned how to stop watching porn.

Now I help guys do the same except in a much much shorter time than it took me.

Weeks instead of years.

Come to my free webinar to learn more.

Sign up at NeverWatchPornAgain.com

The day I quit porn wasn't the last day I quit porn.

Years ago I had a moment where I realized I could choose to feel shame or not.

Having just returned from a 12 step meeting for porn, I had slipped within 10 mins of getting home.

It was confusing because I was feeling so good from the meeting. I was so confident I was winning the battle so to speak.

In the moments afterwards I sat there and I though "Oh @#$@#$ I'm going to have to feel like sh*t again"

It felt like a freight train bearing down on me. The guilt and shame was heading my way to crush me.

In a split second I realized I didn't need to feel bad about this. I realized I ddin't need to feel shame or regret or anything really.

I realized I could choose how i wanted to feel. and in a split second I side stepped the shame train and let it past.

That moment was revolutionary for me. It was the moment that the seed was planted that I had more control over my thoughts and emotions than I knew.

I didn't stop that day, I'd have to learn many more lessons but that was the day I quit porn.

That was the day it all started.

It took longer than I thought or wanted. There were many more painful lessons to learn.

But in the end, the seed grew and I learned how to stop watching porn.

Now I help guys do the same except in a much much shorter time than it took me.

Weeks instead of years.

Come to my free webinar to learn more.

Sign up at NeverWatchPornAgain.com

I'm doing a webinar today @ 4pm EST on Zoom ... go to NeverWatchPornAgain.com to sign up

It's just me talking about quitting porn on zoom.

You can ask questions, you can share what's blocking you etc.

See you there

The day I quit porn wasn't the last day I quit porn.

Years ago I had a moment where I realized I could choose to feel shame or not.

Having just returned from a 12 step meeting for porn, I had slipped within 10 mins of getting home.

It was confusing because I was feeling so good from the meeting. I was so confident I was winning the battle so to speak.

In the moments afterwards I sat there and I though "Oh @#$@#$ I'm going to have to feel like sh*t again"

It felt like a freight train bearing down on me. The guilt and shame was heading my way to crush me.

In a split second I realized I didn't need to feel bad about this. I realized I ddin't need to feel shame or regret or anything really.

I realized I could choose how i wanted to feel. and in a split second I side stepped the shame train and let it past.

That moment was revolutionary for me. It was the moment that the seed was planted that I had more control over my thoughts and emotions than I knew.

I didn't stop that day, I'd have to learn many more lessons but that was the day I quit porn.

That was the day it all started.

It took longer than I thought or wanted. There were many more painful lessons to learn.

But in the end, the seed grew and I learned how to stop watching porn.

Now I help guys do the same except in a much much shorter time than it took me.

Weeks instead of years.

Come to my free webinar to learn more.

Sign up at NeverWatchPornAgain.com

I think most guys would say “I would really love to have real sex with a real person instead”

I think most guys want connection and intimacy.

And love and a great relationship.

And to be happy.

Everyone does.

So nothing has gone wrong. You’re not broken or flawed.

Your brain IS working perfectly BECAUSE you watch porn. You faced adversity and your brain found the ultimate coping mechanism.

It works 100% of the time without fail.

It works no matter how you feel.

It never says No, it’s ALWAYS available.

It’s 100% free and there is an ENDLESS supply.

So you’re really smart to find such a reliable tool.

People pay millions of dollars for that kind of guarantee and you’re getting it for free.

But the side effects suck and you want to get free of this.

Cool! Let’s learn a new tool, a new way of thinking. Let’s learn how to feel so that you don’t need to escape or run.

Let’s put this in action and measure the results.

Let’s talk about why you’re using it and find the things keeping you stuck.

Let’s solve this problem once and for all SO THAT you can go and get that relationship you really want.

The one with connection and intimacy and love and mind blowing sex that is a BILLION times better than porn.

Let’s change your life forever!

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