Guys I’m just looking for some friends that are reverts and possibly struggling. To support eachother and learn about eachothers stories. I want to get closer with my deen and I need a network.
Hello. I'm 23M from India. I'm from Hindu family. After studying all religions I understood that Islam is the truth. Then I took shahada privately. My parents don't know. If they know if might become an issue. My Sheikh told me that marriage is part of sunnah in Islam. So I'm worried as I'm a revert. How can I find someone that will marry me? Is it ok to stay unmarried for whole life? I don't want any issues. Please help.
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Salaam alaykom,
I am a revert brother. I recently asked permission from a father for his daughter's hand in marriage in person on the 16th of April. He ended up saying no after thinking for 3 days. He said his heart feels heavy and that this is Allah's qadr or maktoub, destiny. He later told the girl that it is because I do not speak arabic and have hindu parents. 2 weeks later I sent him a message asking him if he would be willing to spend time together so he could get to know my character better, i offered to pray together or help him with errands, i told him i only have good intentions and am serious about marriage. He called soon after to tell me to stop talking to her family and him himself, he said it is haram and this is Allah's qadr. I asked if he would be willing to speak to an imam with me for guidance and he did not reply. I have not messaged since.
For context: I have known the girl for 1.5 years almost. She is algerian and grew up in the UK and i am indian and grew up in the UK too. Her mother and father are divorced and do not live together or keep in contact. I have met her mother and half siblings that she grew up with and they like me a lot. The mother is very supportive and has tried to speak to him and is continuing to try but with no movement. She lived with her mother because her father asked her to stop speaking to him when she stopped wearing the hijab i think when she was 12. She is now 21 and wearing the hijab and recently moved back in with him in the last 5 months as she needed a place to stay and wanted to reconnect with him, she was renting before. I have been a muslim for 2 years now and am learning arabic alongside my work, I make a decent living and am able to provide which the father is aware of.
It is a difficult position for me and I know it is for her too. I am no longer in contact with her to respect her father. I want to do what is right by Allah and make the decision that is best for everyone in this situation. I know it is extremely stressful for her as this is what she wants but also because she feels guilty for not being able to laugh or smile with her father too. I feel terrible for causing this pain for her and it really does hurt for me too, however I am willing to be patient and take the right steps to find a way forward and/or leave this situation if it is best and what Allah wills. I am afraid more for her than anything, if her father does not change his mind in time, will she be heartbroken. If we transfer the wali to someone else, how will it affect her relationship with her father and how will she feel. I do not want her to live with guilt or pain, but i truly love this girl and would do anything for her if Allah wills for it too. I want her to have peace and be happy but I do not know what would be best for her, please priortise her in your responses.
For me personally, it raises a concern as a revert. Am I to expect to never marry? I understand that having hindus as parents is a valid concern, they are not people of the book and they commit shirk in one of the worst forms. However, they are my parents and love them and won't abandon them, but will never let them influence my religious beliefs or my future family inshAllah. They have accepted me as a muslim and my sister as a muslimah too, they are not too religious themselves so it only took them some time. But it also gives me hope that if they were able to accept me, maybe her father will too or someone will fight for me, i don't know. They know and love the girl themselves and my own mother is heartbroken over the situation too, she felt she had another daughter.
Please, i need some guidance in this situation. I am speaking with another elder imam with my local imam tomorrow but thought to ask elsewhere too. My local imam has told me what the Prophet SAW has said in terms of the valid reasons to reject a marriage and the sin it bares if ignored. I wish no bad for the father, i respect him even though it hurts me a lot and only pray for Allah to forgive us for causing chaos and to guide us in the right direction. I appreciate all opinions but please be respectful to all involved, Jazakhalla khayran.
Please make dua for us and her specifically. It hurts to imagine the pain she is in.
Please help me with your comments and messages :)