r/oldest_daughter

I planned a meal for my mother for the whole day. I only cooked breakfast around 8 am for her. So, my dad got mad at me for only cooking for her. And not for him and my brother. Which doesn't make sense. IT IS MOTHER'S DAY! I continue to ask him, "So I got two mothers now?" As my father starts to guilt-trip me (using narcissistic tactics) to say I should cook for the whole family. Blanty, he started cussing me out. I really don't have time for babying a Man-Child. As the oldest daughter, tragedy struck again, and I held my ground. Sadly, I ruined the day by not cooking for the other two. Am I crazy to only cater to my mom?

Here was the meal plan since I could make the rest of the meal for today. -->

breakfast~

1. Scrambled eggs, hash browns, Oatmeal, and sausages.

Dinner~
2. Mini sandwiches grilled, with curly fries, and a brownie cupcake.

Lunch~
3. Fried mini barbecue chicken, salad, macaroni, and mini burger.

sadly can't make the last two, since my dad won't talk to me and won't take me to the grocery stores. Somehow, he really makes it feel like I'm the bad guy. As this was going on, my mom pretended everything was fine, and my brother, being the follower he is. Just doing the same method as my Dad would do.

I probably need a blue-collar job or something to get away from them. Oh, I also forgot to tell you. They were hindering me from getting my license to make me feel that I only needed them to drive me to my job. Yeah, my older daughter coded.

I really need advice. pls.

I’m the oldest of three and all my life I’ve been the third parent/the responsible one, the one who always just figured it out. Because of that, I’m very independent and have learned not to rely on anyone/ just get things done myself. I had a baby a year ago and I’m really struggling with everyone suddenly wanting to be sooooo involved in my (baby’s) life. I know it’s a good thing there’s more people to love my kid but at the same time part of me is like “you all just left me to fend for myself all those years and NOW you want to be involved and “support” me????”

On top of that, I’ve gotten a hard time from a lot of people for not letting them babysit/ watch baby overnight and I just don’t get it because I’ve been trained to rely only on myself, so why would I trust you now?

Mostly just a rant. Curious if any other eldest daughters can relate or if I’m just a headcase haha