Dealing with bullies in school
Kinda knew this day would come, and the way I dealt with bullies when I was a kid isn't exactly kosher here so I'm asking the JapanResidents community for input here.
Our kid just started elementary school. Neither me nor my wife are Japanese, but he looks "ha-fu". He went to a 認可 kindergarten for 4 years being the only non-Japanese kid for all 4 years. He speaks Japanese at roughly the same level as his peers, but he does have some difficulties expressing his feelings in all three languages that he speaks.
While we've done our best to make sure he doesn't have prejudice, it's hard growing up around Japanese kids (and parents, let's be honest) that drill it into their kids' heads that "pink is for girls, blue is for boys, dolls are for girls, cars are for boys" etc. I say this because:
We recently went to a pop-up thrift store and found a ton of super cheap clothes. One of these was a black zip-up hoodie with mickey mouse on it. He loves it. It's super-comfy, and he thinks it's cool because he likes black and red. The hood itself has 2 ears on it, but since they're black too and he never wears it with the hoodie up, they're barely visible. He liked it, so we bought it, he was super happy to have new clothes for the new school year.
He has two other boys in his class that initially he said were friends. When he wears the hoodie, these guys call him "mickey". Initially I didn't think much of it since, you know, he has mickey mouse on his shirt and so they're probably just saying that because they see mickey and react to it. Turns out they are calling my kid mickey. He says he told them to stop calling him that because he doesn't like that. They don't stop and keep doing it. So while the comment itself is fairly innocuous it's the fact that he does not like them calling him mickey, that he tells them to stop, and that they keep doing it regardless, is the issue.
This morning he was crying because he put on the shirt and then realised his "friends" will make fun of him for wearing it. I tried telling him that the only thing that matters is what he wants and likes, that if he likes the shirt that's all that matters, that he looks cool wearing it, etc. I gave him some pointers on how to tell his friends that they should stop but he's 6, it's not exactly easy to have that level of self confidence when they don't respect your wishes.
Telling him to ignore them isn't exactly a solution. Going to the teacher perhaps would be a solution? When I was in elementary my strategy was to find something they didn't like being called and doubling down on being twice as much of an asshat back, which worked but it's going to make him cynical like me, and I don't want that.
What would you do in this situation? The issue isn't being called "mickey", it's that his friends don't respect him telling them "no". I want to squash this now before it escalates, but I also don't want to make a mountain out of a disney hill.