r/exmuslimr4r

So my friend told me to download Reddit to find ex- Muslims. She was showing me all these posts of people putting themselves out there to find someone. I then read that some people successfully became in a relationship because of Reddit which is so awesome! But it does seem to be the only space for specifically ex-muslims to put themselves out there for each other.

I've actually spoken to a few people on ex- Muslim spaces who have told they have met up with people on Reddit as well which shows that it does happen.

I want to know your good stories, the bad stories etc. When I asked for advice on how to do it safely on my first post... people said just text for ages and take your time exchanging pictures to suss the vibe out. I honestly hate texting strangers on the Internet. Phone calls are better but in person is the best. Also does it not feel weird to you talking to someone for a while but not knowing what they look like? I don't like the idea of it. I might have 0 attraction to this person yet wasting my time building rapport. Then when it finally comes to the picture reveal, it will be really awkward to decline getting to know each other any longer because you've already built a false sense of chemistry through texts.

I've noticed though I'm mostly likely going to be entertaining someone on here that has a history of posting ex-muslim content dating all the way back to 5-7 years ago or someone I've seen appear in other ex- Muslim spaces such as Telegram groupchats. That would then give me the vibe that your not secretly a Muslim trying to dox me.

It’s been two years since I last posted this. While the world outside has changed, the need for a safe, silent community hasn't. It’s still a struggle to find people like us when we’re all wearing masks, but I’m back to try again.

I am from Lahore. You can read more about me below.

The Nerd/Weeb Core:
I’m still fueled by philosophy, science, and anime. I’m looking for someone who doesn’t just want small talk, but wants to connect on a deeper level.

The Artist’s Heart & Humor:
Music is my muse and singing is my passion, but I’m an artist at heart in every sense. I have a profound love for art and the people who create it. To keep things balanced, I also have a great sense of humor (ranging from the witty to the slightly absurd to dark) and I deeply appreciate the same in others. If you can make me laugh while we’re debating nihilism, we’ll get along perfectly.

The Physical Side:
To balance the "overthinking" brain, I’ve leaned heavily into fitness and endurance sports. Whether it’s the steady rhythm of running or the intense focus of boxing, I find my clarity through movement.

A Note on Connection:
I’m looking for something genuine. Please, don't be an avoidant and please don't ghost. If you aren't feeling the vibe, just say so. I value transparency and maturity over a disappearing act.

An Ex-Muslim Atheist M24 living in Delhi due to job originally from Bihar looking for an Ex-Muslim Atheist F for marriage 2-3 years down the line.

Working in IT sector. Looking for a working woman preferably in teaching sector in 11th-12th or competitive exams or degree or diploma college. Preferably if teaching Mathematics or Physics.

As IT sector is hectic or competitive job so I'm looking for a woman who doesn't have more hectic job than me.

Kids need parents time. So teaching job for one of the parents would be suitable.

Kids learn from parents. So it's necessary that we teach them good values. We'll try to take care of my parents and your parents so that our kids will take care of us when we need them in old age.

We'll live in a neutral place so that neither my parents nor your parents feel as guests when they visit us.

Currently I live with my elder brother's family in Delhi as it's more suitable than other options as a bachelor. After marriage we won't live with them.

Though I don't believe in these things but in marriage people check this so I'm from Shaikh community. My family members marry only in Shaikh and Syed communities so there is a family and societal pressure. My family is Hanafi. There isn't any problem of Deobandi-Barelvi as my family is a mixed family.

My family is not overly religious but they're not completely irreligious either.

My height is about 5ft 5 inch. So looking for a woman accordingly in the suitable height range.

Looks wise I'm looking for natural, not makeup slop. Who doesn't wear revealing clothes. My skin color is fairish-wheatish. I'm looking for a woman with lightish skin color as I don't feel attracted to dark skin. So what's the point of marriage if I'm not attracted to you.

Have good moral character and doesn't follow not so good things which happen in the broad society just because their peers are doing it.

My salary is not high as of now so I'm working hard to increase my salary. So it'd be better if we keep our lifestyle accordingly so that we don't have to ask for money from anyone or go bankrupt and can have peaceful life after retirement.

I've written everything completely raw because I believe in clear communication.

As exmuslim atheists are very small minority among minorities in India so I'll not delete this post. So if you see this post even after a very long time it means I'm still looking. So you can reach out to me in my DM as I'm not going to engage in comment section because that'd not be appropriate.

I (28F) am looking for my childfree emotionally mature man preferably between 28 to 35, who is in want for the love of a good woman.

Now as for what is the definition of "good woman", that's up to you. But I am empathetic, kind and I want someone to love. I am a doctor, doing my postgraduation in a very niche but emotionally demanding speciality. I have been financially independent for nearly 5 years, but I accept my Eidi from whoever wants to give it to me. I am responsible and careful, both with my money and my emotions.

I am an atheist and while I don't mind people believing whatever they want to, I would prefer an (closeted)ex-Muslim man to continue the charade with me for my family. Yes, it's a stupid want and you can't please everyone but you can choose your battles. I am 5ft not an inch taller, I am often called cute and my patients have always loved me for my charming personality

I live in South India for now, and plan to move away once my residency is over. I am looking to build a life with someone and not just supplement society's need for eventualities - to be married, to be a mother, to be an x by the age of y and blah blah blah.

I want someone to take care of me, to be quite honest. I've been the gardener too long and just for once I'd like to be the flower. In exchange you can have the love of a good woman.

Do not DM me if- you're not a feminist, or close-minded, or not an ally to queer folk, are broke or unemployed, or plan to live with your parents forever.

Hello everyone, I’m new here and honestly a bit weary in meeting people online (I’ve never used dating apps and don’t use IG/other similar social media). Willing to give this a shot! My dating experience, while not extensive, has included both muslims and non-muslims. I realize that I need to find someone who is in the same/similar closeted ex-muslim boat as me.

I’m in Alberta and have been a professional for several years. I like to be outside doing activities like hiking, hunting, ranch work and playing sports. I have a small friend group and don’t spend a lot of time in nightlife (I enjoy going out from time to time for dinner and an occasional drink). I can cook well and take care of my body via nutrition, frequent exercise, sauna etc. Won’t stop me from an occasional cigarette though! I read a lot. I have two bachelor degrees and a master degree. I’m naturally curious and work hard.

I have a lot of family responsibilities (oldest son). My family is dear to me, so I’ve had to learn how to balance my personal life and family life. I am closeted as an ex-muslim, so of course this is challenging.

I’m looking for something serious with someone who challenges both herself and me, takes care of herself and wants to start a family someday. Ideally this person is spontaneous, an intellectual, doesn’t take life so seriously and is both resilient and tolerant. I will fall for you easier if you make me laugh! Ideally she would be younger than me, somewhere in the 24-27 range. The right person would be the number one priority in my life.

If I sound interesting to you, feel free to send me a message. I’m curious but it will take time for me to adjust to this online business lol. Thanks for your time in reading this through.

hey,

everytime i post on here i meet new people, so im back. looking for friends.

Im from the uk and im soon to graduate in philosophy, last exams in a few days. I specialise in social philosophy and epistemology if u wanna know

other interests are just learning in general, gaming, sports and other niche hobbies are among the mix. im passionate about a bunch of things.

dont message me if ur politically conservative despite being an ex muslim, i dont think we’ll get along, based off of previous experiences lmao.

hi i'm looking for other exmuslim women who want to chat online about our experiences being exmuslim and if we happen to hit it off, become friends.

about me:
- generally nerdy leaning, i'm on the autism spectrum
- i've read multiple books related to exmuslim experiences if you want to talk about any!
- failure to launch, mentally ill
- i have gender critical views and they are important to me. if you don't know what those are, well i can try to give you a balanced overview of the topic. if you disagree with that and still want to hit me up... feel free i guess lol.

23F here! Long shot but I am looking for someone in the age range 24-27. Who is willing to get married in the next 2-3 years. I am looking for someone who is agnostic, does not want kids after marriage and is open minded. Should be based in Lahore or should visit Lahore frequently so that we can meet in person. If you meet the criteria you can dm on the Instagram handle landa_bazaar_