r/comphet

So to start, I have never had a boyfriend and have had very little male interaction, but I always considered myself straight. my roommate (who I have developed feelings for) has had a couple boyfriends and in general has more experience with men than I do. But I am beginning to question my sexuality and I am wondering if she might be too?

So the backstory: We both moved to a new state for the same job after graduating college and we have been roommates for the best 9ish months. About 3 months ago my feelings for her hit me like a truck after a night out together and it is something that I have been grappling with. I know that I do really like her but I am scared. 1) because we are best friends/coworkers/roommates and I would hate for any of those things to get ruined. 2) because as far as I know she is straight and as far as she knows I am straight. so that makes things more complicated.

There are different things that have happened in recent months that make me think that she might have feelings for me too, but I am scared that I am delusional. I really don’t think I am being unreasonable, but I just need advice. I can get into the details of the events that make me think she has feelings for me too if you want. But basically we have both been single since moving to this new state two years ago and we have basically been attached at the hip for the past year. I have never felt a connection like this with anyone before and I have never been physically attracted to someone like I have with her.

I really need advice/tips on what to do because I am in a really tough situation. I can’t keep doing what I am doing and not telling her how I feel, but I am terrified. Please help.

Hi! I am asking here because I need an advice! I am 16yo and Im a female. Since I was in 6th grade I like my bestfriend who is also female and I known her since I was 4yo. Recently she has confessed me that she also likes girls and that she has a crush on a girl who is 2 years older than us (Ik her only by looks and she has a bf), my bestfriend knows I like girls but she doesn't know I have a crush in her. She has told me that if she were to have a girlfriend it would be in another country bc we live in a a town and country kinda homophobic (Mexico). And I don’t really think I am her type but she’s very kind to me and sometimes I feel this tension between us but idk if is just me, I really would like to have A relationship with her, even if is secret (bc is was just recently that she find out that she liked her, I kinda help her admit it). The problem is I also don't want to ruin the little friendship we have (I think like we don’t talk as we used to do before and we have this distance) and it would be akward if she rejects me,bc we have 2 classes together, but she also has told me that in order for her to understand herself better she would like to have a relationship, but she doesnt feel that connection with anyone. I even asked the tiktok and told me yes, some friends advice me yes and others no. I am scared that I ruin our friendship bc I think she sees me as family, but I would like to at least put a closure to this, bc it has trouble me for a while. Should I confess to her? If yes how? If not, then should I distance myself?pls i need an advice