r/communicationskills

I enrolled in a communication masterclass conducted by Dr Shivani Sharma under the name Indian Leadership Talks, which costs ₹10,000. Her Instagram profile appears very impressive, and she comes across as quite eloquent there.

However, my actual experience in the course has been disappointing. She often conducts sessions in Hindi, which was not clearly communicated beforehand. Additionally, she sometimes seems disinterested during the sessions, and her facial expressions can come across as unwelcoming when participants ask questions.

Overall, I haven’t found the course to provide sufficient value for the price, and it feels like a poor investment.

I’m a 24 M attending coaching classes every Sunday. Recently, a new girl joined the class, and we’ve spoken a couple of times during lunch (we go to the same place to eat).

The thing is, I’ve never really had female friends in real life, so I don’t know how to talk or behave naturally. When I try to talk, I feel anxious, my mind goes blank, and I don’t know what to say next.

I think I have a small crush on her, and that’s making me overthink everything more. I keep replaying situations in my head and worrying if I did something wrong or awkward.

I want to improve this:

• How do I talk normally with her without feeling anxious?
• What kind of things should I talk about in the beginning?
• How do I stop overthinking every small interaction?
• Should I tell her that I’m introverted or just keep it normal?

I don’t want to rush anything or make her uncomfortable. I just want to become more confident and be able to talk normally.

Any advice would really help. Thanks!

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Is it just me, or do most CRMs create more work than they save? You have to manually log every email, every call, every interaction. You have to remember to update fields. You have to categorize and tag everything. Meanwhile, you're ALSO having the actual conversations in email and chat. So you're doing everything twice: once in real life, once in the CRM. Am I missing something? Is there a better way? I want relationship intelligence WITHOUT the data entry burden. Does that exist or am I dreaming?

I enrolled in a communication masterclass conducted by Dr Shivani Sharma under the name Indian Leadership Talks, which costs ₹10,000. Her Instagram profile appears very impressive, and she comes across as quite eloquent there.

However, my actual experience in the course has been disappointing. She often conducts sessions in Hindi, which was not clearly communicated beforehand. Additionally, she sometimes seems disinterested during the sessions, and her facial expressions can come across as unwelcoming when participants ask questions.

Overall, I haven’t found the course to provide sufficient value for the price, and it feels like a poor investment.

(16F)I don’t know how to continue conversations with anyone I don’t speak to regularly, it’s so bad we would just sit their in silence or I would just end up telling them I’m dry / awkward. I literally only talk to my best friend. When I’m with a group of people, I just make jokes or stay dead silent .

I just want to be the one to make the conversation flow, stop relying on vibes, or on people asking me questions/ or me asking them questions, and topics I like . I have a lot of personality I just don’t know how to reveal that to people in conversation, it normally takes a feeeww months for that to happen. I also struggle with being myself sometimes, I take on a personality based of other people’s vibes and personality.

What should I do ?

Hi,

I'm a 29F working in corporate tech as a software engineer. I got into this because I love problem solving and being an individual contributor.

As I grew into the role I need to communicate with a lot of stakeholders, including holding meetings and sending follow up emails to the whole team.

That, absolutely terrifies me. I had one such meeting today and I fumbled. I'm supposed to send out a follow up email but i'm unable to out of anxiety.

I could use some help, i've received feedback in the past for being too "Independent" at work. I'm sure people notice in my personal life too.

Hi Everyone,

I am from India. I came to the UAE a Decade ago. (I could have said: It's been a decade since i am here). I wanted to talk about an important aspect related to my communication.

My communication skills, promoucniation, sentence formation and thinking structure have been detoriating since i landed here. It's so bad that i am rrpeating my sentences, lost all my confidence and i have very few basic words in my mouth with ehich i try to form a sentencez i am at koss of vocabulary, creative exprrssuon and grammar. To give you some hint, i am exactly in th spot where i used to jidge people for having such poor communication skills. I know alot of things might have resulted into this like physical fitness, stress, office politics etc but i want to get back ti my origibal proficency .

To give u an example i was an ielts 9 overall , and i have struggeld to find the right words infact i had to recall the word "proficiency" and others that i have wrote(used) above.

Skipping chatgpt after a long time inorder to show you where i am.

Now, Question: can you please suggest some good books that can help me gain my grammar, pronouncition and vocabulary back?

Thanks

Over the past year there’s been a big focus on self-improvement—fitness, appearance, confidence, all that—and it’s paid off.

But one thing that still feels off is communication, especially in conversations with new people or girls. Sometimes the mind just goes blank, or sentences come out awkward with too many filler words or slang.

Recently started using an app called Articulate, which gives feedback on things like filler words and clarity, and it’s actually helped build more awareness and confidence when speaking.

Curious if anyone else has worked on this and seen real improvement—what helped you get better at holding conversations naturally?

Hi, someone on Reddit recommended this communication coach to me, but I’m not sure if they were being genuine or just trying to sell something. Has anyone here used this website to improve their communication skills or interview performance?

https://www.speak10xbetter.com

I’d really appreciate any honest feedback or experiences before deciding.

hey, i’m 20M and i’m trying to improve my communication skills

i thought instead of doing it alone, it would be better to make a small group where we can practice together regularly

right now we are 2 people (including one female friend), and we’re looking for 2 guys and 2 girls so the group feels balanced

the idea is simple we’ll talk through voice notes or sometimes video calls and just try to get better at expressing ourselves

nothing too formal, just consistency and honest effort

if you’re actually serious about improving and won’t disappear after a few days, dm me 👍

Hello! I’m an incoming freshie and i’m honestly still confused on what program i should take up, while the med-related programs aren’t really calling out my heart. But i’m starting to get really scared because I don't have a strong foundation when it comes to editing and creative writing. As well as with public speaking and performance. My main reason as to why I want to choose this course is mainly to challenge and enhance my communication and social skills.

A little background about me: I tend to get really really nervous in front of the class to the point i’d stutter and fidget a lot, as well as get a wave of anxiety to the moments leading up to the activities requiring my public performance, I’m also not a journalist so I don’t have any relative background in writing as well as editing.

Any advice would be of great help, thank you!! 🥹

If you want to be the most memorable person in the room, stop trying to be the "most interesting" and start being the "most attentive."

Here are two tactical tools to shift the spotlight onto the other person while making yourself impossible to forget.

1. Paraphrasing: The "Mirror" Technique

Paraphrasing isn't just repeating what someone said; it’s "reframing" it to show you "truly" understood the point behind their words. It proves you aren't just hearing them; you’re processing them.

How to do it: Wait for a natural break, then summarize their point in your own words.

Making the most of it: If you're in a group conversation and want to share a point or create a moment for you to speak, paraphrase their words (to show you're paying attention) then add more content to the conversation.

PS: In the challenge we talk about listening and mind mapping, so you already know how to proceed.

2. Open-Ended Questions: The "Deep-Dive" Trigger

Closed questions (Yes/No) kill conversations. Open-ended questions provide the "runway" for the other person to share their perspective, which gives you more "data" to work with for your next response.

The Rule of "How" and "What/Why": Instead of asking "Did you like that?", ask "What was it about that experience that really stood out to you?"

The "Follow-Up" Pivot: After they answer, use a "What-if," "How," or "Why" question to peel back a layer, without sounding judgmental, but curious.

Example: "That sounds like a massive shift. How did your team react when you first proposed that change?"

It shifts the conversation from "Small Talk" to "Big Talk." People rarely forget those who make them feel seen.

🎯 The Strategy

Before you give your opinion, paraphrase their last point and ask a "How" or "What/Why" question. If you do this, you’ll find that you don’t need to "perform" to be impressive. Developing your ability to guide the conversation to a deeper level is the best way of elevating your social game.

hi guys, given everything that's happening in the world right now, it makes sense to move to the United States, and I would like to hear from you about the advantages and disadvantages of living there.

• Fully prepared - I reviewed context beforehand

• Somewhat prepared - I skimmed recent emails

• Winging it - I'll catch up as we talk

• Panic mode - frantically searching during the call