r/YouOnLifetime

What is with the fandoms double standard regarding Joe and Love?

What is with the fandoms double standard regarding Joe and Love?

I didn’t think it was that bad at first but recently i’ve been seeing people calling others out for just posting humorous or thirst posts for Joe, but the same people are completely fine when it’s done for Love.

I don’t understand how you can love one of them so much while hating the other, they’re basically the same.

They both have good qualities that people romanticise which makes them seem like ideal partners.

Joe is witty, charming, thoughtful and very good looking. He’s a great listener and so observant. He can be really romantic because of how creative he is. He also reads and I think that’s a trait a good amount of people find attractive.

Love is nurturing, warm, emotionally intelligent and also very attractive. She’s passionate and artistic and extremely devoted to the people in her life and of course she is also really good looking as well. And her cooking is impeccable!

Both have very desirable traits, there’s no difference there.

But they’re also both extremely horrible people.

They’re both violent, cunning, manipulative, Narcissistic and abusive. They take advantage of the people around them for their own benefit, they consider themselves to be superior to other people. They’ve taken and destroyed countless lives and both don’t feel bad about whatsoever.

So yeah, they’re the same in that regard as well.

So, why are people fine with the romanticism and glory that goes towards Love but if any of it goes to Joe, it’s unacceptable, like what?

They’re literally the same.

u/AdGreedy1880 — 7 hours ago

My rant about YOU

This is my second run watching YOU and rn im on episode 8 of season 4 with the whole shift from Joe being Blackmailed for Murder to Joe having an whole Identity crisis.

This is not who my goat is and I think I gotta spit some right now.

First off I wanna start by saying this shit is not real and im speaking as a person who watches YOU out of pure entertainment (crazy wording btw im on a streak rn).

Like yall gotta stop saying Joe deserved all that because yall gotta understand this is fiction and it's all about the story and the characters.

Joe could've gotten a season purely on getting out of that life but they gave him brain damage lmao?

sry but season 2 and 3 was Peak fiction and I absolutely loved the first half of YOU season 4 but episode 8 and 9 are pure shit (in case of Joe).

Like gang are we deadass cause Joe saved Phoebe and then this student of Joe was moving like Sherlock 2010 (btw i loved Phoebe she got the happiest and best ending W).

YOU could've been goated if they locked in with the development of Joe.

I am NOT starting a rant about season 5 lol because it just went down after episode 8 season 4.

WARNING: The ACTUAL best way to end the series would've been if Joe went 0/1/0 in real life but Joe being imprisoned? are we deadass it should've ended with no more Joe.

There is so much more I wanna say ngl but its already over and the way it ended will always be my potential Greatest of all Time series gone to the buns.

Goodbye, You

u/Illustrious_Can_1908 — 3 hours ago

Why "Joe/Love aren't real so its okay to romanticize them!" doesn't work

As the old saying goes - "art reflects life". Yes, the specific characters of "Joe" and "Love" are fictional, but they are based on real life people/behaviour.

Joe violates women to feel a sense of power over them. This is literally how predators and rapists operate. He also gets violent with women for showing autonomy (e.g. kidnapping and trying to kill Candace for dumping him, same with Marianne, strangling Beck for standing up to him etc). This stuff happens. It is not romantic or cool or badass or hot or whatever Joe fangirls like to call it.

Love breaks people in order to make them depend on her. Like Forty, making him think he's a terrible murderer. This "break them to save them" beahviour happens in real life. And she shows the same entitlement like violent energy Joe shows to his love interests to James when she murders him for wanting a divorce. It's just a gender bent version of what he does. Not to mention she is a huge internalized misogynist and victim blamer "Guinevere Beck was unspecial and mediocre, she didn't deserve you (you = the man who strangled her to death)".

Also a statement that will hypocritically annoy these same people who make this case for Joe/Love:

Beck is a queen for cheating on Joe. And lying to him about it.

I mean... It's fictional? So why are you so upset about it? #GirlBoss #ISupportWomen'sWrongs

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u/Think-Flamingo-3922 — 5 hours ago

Wow

so! a few weeks ago, i decided to read the you series since i watched the show. & O.M.G. it’s so crazy. the book joe and the show joe are two completely different ppl. at least to me. book joe is waaaaay more scarier. but i love it!! i’m on to hidden bodies!

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u/Express-Bus-1408 — 22 hours ago
Week