r/WitchesTradingPost

Hi, I’m still pretty new to magick and honestly I need advice more than judgment right now.
A few months ago I did what I called a healing ritual for my father in law’s cancer. What happened afterward shook me enough that I haven’t practiced since. But now I feel stuck and don’t know where else to turn.
I don’t want a love spell or obsession spell. I want the opposite. I want freedom.
I’ve been married for 27 years. Back in 2014 I made a serious mistake, went to rehab, and owned it completely. My husband stayed, but afterward our marriage became something very different behind closed doors. To everyone else we looked like the perfect family, but privately I’ve spent years feeling controlled, guilt ridden, and emotionally torn down.
Then last year I discovered he had been messaging other women, meeting up with women overseas during deployments, and lying to me about it for years. Finding out shattered the pedestal I had him on. Since then it feels like I’ve finally started seeing everything clearly.
The problem is he cares deeply about appearances and being seen as the “good guy.” I know if I leave, somehow I’ll end up painted as the villain because of my past mistake.
So I guess what I’m asking is: are there any spells, workings, cord cuttings, truth spells, or road opening rituals that help reveal truth, break unhealthy attachments, and help a marriage end peacefully instead of explosively? I don’t want revenge or harm. I just want enough honesty and calm between us that we can separate fairly, without hatred, and without him turning vindictive if I ask for the temporary support I’ll need to get back on my feet after spending most of my adult life supporting his career and raising our family. Thank you for reading all of this. I know it’s a lot, but I genuinely don’t know what else to do at this point.
Please just know that I’m not looking to control anyone’s free will or cause harm. I just want peace, clarity, and the strength to finally move forward.