r/TransSupport

Hi!
(this is a burner account as my boyfriend knows my main).
I have very recently figured out that i am trans (mtf)
and i was struggling with how to tell my boyfriend as he is a cis gay man so it would effectively end our relationship.

we have not long got over a rocky patch where we had separated so it feels like a punch in the teeth to just turn around on him like this, but at the same time since I’ve realised it has been hard for me to cope with maintaining a physical relationship and an emotional one as i feel i cant be open with him about my feelings without him reacting negatively.

i told my boyfriend and the reaction was……. unpleasant to say the least. he completely broke down on me saying that he couldnt live without me and things of such a nature, and due to me having recently losing someone to suicide, i basically capitulated and told him that i would stay with him and not transition.if i dont transition it will eventually kill me and if i do and he hurts himself because of it i wouldnt be able to forgive myself so i dont know how to proceed

I'm an 18 almost 19 year old man who wants to start transitioning but I'm unfortunately in a very abusive household and I'm scared and at this point I really don't know what to do i have supportive friends but unfortunately they all live far away from me

If anyone has any advice or tips I'd be very thankful and sorry if I used any wrong terms I'm still very new to all this

I tried to come out today to my best friend, a trans woman, and it was one of the worst conversations of my life. As violent and abusive as if I had come out to a transphobic family member. Somehow was told I was not trans enough. There was no one else I thought I could trust to talk about this with so openly. Made me want to flush everything I’ve been working through down the toilet, like I’m an idiot. Feel really heartbroken and brutalized, and just looking for some support somewhere.

For as long as I can remember, gloves are what gave me the most gender euphoria and sense of femininity. My girlfriend wearing a pair of elbow-length gloves to a concert are what got me to come out as trans to her because I expressed wanting a pair for myself and she bought me a pair for me so we could wear them together.

It’s not just the look, either. I have an inherent need to be “covered”, meaning I prefer to show minimal amounts of skin. The compression effect of long opera gloves or tight latex gloves does exactly that from both of them in their own ways. It’s easy to wear long pants or boots, but I feel like gloves might look out of place no matter how good/pretty I feel in them.

I also struggle with the idea of my hands being “contaminated” and have a lot of sensory issues when it comes to touching certain things, and gloves also help a TON with navigating public spaces. My hands and arms have extremely bad eczema that’s exacerbated by my allergies (most notably dust and a deadly peanut allergy), so it’s good to have the added benefit of a barrier between my skin and what I’m making contact with. They give me a sense of calm when it comes to avoiding contamination.

I love wearing gloves. I wear them every day. Depending on the occasion (minus work), it’s either black satin opera gloves or black disposable latex gloves.

The main deciding factors in the length and material of gloves I wear are how formal the event is, what the weather conditions are looking like and how feminine I’m feeling that day. Generally, the longer the glove, the more feminine I feel in them.

The satin opera gloves I wear the most are shoulder-length and I prefer to wear them *under* long sleeves or at the very least mid-length sleeves. Occasionally, I wear them with my arms exposed or under a lace shirt.

That being said, I know they can be a little “much” when it comes to how they’re perceived since gloves aren’t exactly mainstream in fashion (besides wearing them for warmth).

Is it socially acceptable to wear them out everywhere? I’m worried people will judge me for it. I’ve been feeling hesitant to wear them but they make me feel both safe and pretty it’s hard to think of what I’d do without them.

I will never regret my family, but I feel so awful for sharing the pain that I am experiencing with them. I know this doesn't have to be a negative thing and I wish it could only be a blessing, but it isn't.

About a week ago my gender hit me in the face, even though it's been trying to wake me up my whole life.

Not really sure how to face each day now. Any advice or anyone willing to chat please reach out. Thanks everyone

Hi everyone.
I'm a 24-year-old trans woman (MTF) from Russia. I need serious advice because I feel completely stuck.

Here is my situation:

1. Legal transition in Russia is banned since July 2023 — no HRT prescriptions, no legal gender change, no surgeries.
2. I'm scared to see any doctors — even a psychiatrist or endocrinologist. Why? Because in Russia, all medical data goes into a shared system (EMIAS). I'm not afraid of the government arresting me. I'm afraid that information could leak to my relatives (doctors talking, databases leaking, etc.). I am not ready to come out to my family yet. I don't know if they would accept me. It could destroy my relationships and my home situation.
3. The military service problem — I've managed to get Alternative Civil Service (АГС) instead of the army. That's a good thing because I won't be sent to war. But it's also a problem: AGS lasts 1.5 years. During that time I will be under state control, working at some assigned job (likely a hospital, post office, or library). I can't start transitioning during AGS — the physical changes would eventually become noticeable, and that could put me in danger.
4. The money problem — Because of all the bureaucracy to get AGS, I have had no time to work. Right now I have no job and almost no savings. I cannot afford to:
   • Pay for private doctors (even if I found a safe one)
   • Buy hormones (even if I decided to DIY, I need blood tests which cost money)
   • Move to another country (visa, plane ticket, rent, survival money)

My questions to you:

• Has anyone here been in a similar situation — stuck in a country with bans, with mandatory service ahead of you, and no money to leave? What did you do?
• Are there any organizations that help trans people from Russia with relocation or financial support for hormones and basic survival?
• If I wait until after AGS ends — what country would be the cheapest and easiest for a Russian trans woman to move to with little money?

Please share your experience if you have been in a similar situation — not just theoretical advice, but what you actually did to survive. Thank you for reading.