Something goes wrong..you deal with it.
Something feels off..you keep it to yourself.
You don’t reach out every time.
Not because you can’t… it just feels easier.
And after a point it becomes your default.
You just handle things.
When it actually gets too much, do you reach out… or still deal with it on your own?
So, I know that me including a lot of people are single despite late 20's or early 30's. But why is the society, parents and friends amd everyone think that being a married person mind you I have herad folks comment you get married come and sit at my house, then also I don't care, but don't stay single. So why is this affiliated to something as respect in society? Like we have accepted all kinds of job now.. have we not? Are we yet to reach maturity as a society? Asking this genuinely cuz there are multiple posts that keep saying they lost life cuz they have not found partner st 23, 26, 28, 29 etc etc... and parents keep pushing for marriage from age of 23 or 24... have we labeled marriage as a standard for life? Even now with all the progress that we have made?
I have never been in a relationship and actually never want to be in one. I am 21 now and although I had crush on someone I didn't want to confess or be in a relationship.
I have strict parents and currently I am studying. I have so many dreams. I want to travel, learn new things [bungee jumping, ride bikes, horse riding, swimming and many more]. I don't want to marry. I have been living my whole life according to my parents wishes. It will be around 25 when I will be financially independent enough to start living my life to the fullest. If I marry someone my dreams will just stay as dreams. It has nothing to do with love or anything like that. I always care about others rather than myself. So if I marry and have kids like all do. I will just sacrfice myslef for others. If both partners are doing jobs it will be really hard to travel together beacause of leave issue. And you have to think about other expenses also. And when kids are born you have to think about their future also. Although I want to live for myself. I know I will just end up sacrificing for others.
So I want to stay single. But the problem is that at somepoint you will start feeling lonely. I want to know if anyone has same thought process as me. It would be nice to have a lifelong friend tbh.
If it's a friend there will be more personal space. You can travel together or alone as per your schedule, do things you like. And at the age of 40/50 you can build a house and start living together near a village or something, with greenary and some small hobbies like reading, gardening, crochet and things like that. I want to enjoy and save alongside until I am 40/ 50 and invest in saving plans [like early retiement]. So that I can live a peaceful life when I am old. Is there anyone who thinks like me
I am curious if being well-earning and educated woman (say IIT IIM graduate), earning as much as the guy, excuses you and your family from paying dowry. I would love to hear everyone's observations and thoughts.