r/Nigeria

I lived abroad for 10 years, I decided to come back to Nigeria to pour into our economy instead of those of foreign nation, and since then I have got nothing but scammed, disrespected , disregarded, judged , underestimated, undervalued. Just because I am a woman, business personnels will not pay me on time, hell sometimes they won’t even pay me. You could be more qualified than a man! All of them at my young age of 20 yrs and still be underestimated, underpaid and mocked. This stupid country has stole everything from me, my time, my money , my dreams, my goals, my happiness. Sometimes I’ve even thought of just calling it quits , because I’m confused how can God put such an ambitious idea in my head and still choose for me to be born in this hell of a nation , all ego and absolutely nothing to show for it, I CANT EVEN PAY MY FUCKING SCHOOL FEES , because of this stupid system. I am counting the days to leave this country and make a better life for myself far far away from this disgrace of a country.

When you devalue the country, you are in turn devaluing the people. This is partly in response to the now highly upvoted post of the young woman detailing how she hates Nigeria. I feel for the young woman, gender bias in Nigeria is beyond horrible, and there is a need for a new Nigerian mind. Corruption is in every sector you can think of. 

However, her post and the comments under it made me think about the way in which we speak about Nigeria. When you make a statement such as "this stupid country," there are people who live in that country, and if the country is stupid, the people in it must be stupid as well. 

When you say something like "my children will never see Nigeria," you are implying that there is something wrong with the country, and you don't want your children to go there; however, you are of the country, so there must be something wrong with you as well.

My point is whether you like it or not, you, as a Nigerian, are Nigeria. What you say and believe about the country must, to some extent, apply to yourself as well. 

Many of us who live abroad should be especially careful in how we address Nigeria; something about it seems malicious. You can criticize Nigeria without devaluing the people. There is nothing inherently wrong with our people; we are like everyone else. 

Furthermore, a less important side note, the way we speak about ourselves informs others on how they should speak about us. Under that post is a non-Nigerian who affirms it and says Nigeria is entirely filled with scammers. We all know this isn't true, but this blanket way of speaking about our country, and in turn ourselves, does more harm than good. 

From my experience, I can only imagine the frustration of young founders and the number of dreams buried in Nigeria.

Recently I was working on a project that needs funding, while corporate lenders didn't respond or asked for insane collaterals, nearly every major tech hubs said they don't have a running incubation program. I went from Port Harcourt to Abuja and Lagos, and it's all the same. Without a strong family name, no door seems to open.

The only thriving industry in Nigeria, seems to be the Car dealership and real estates. No structural support for many other sectors. Aside fintech and crypto tech is almost nonexistent.

I was relieved when I got a referral. After a week of trying to meet him, I could only meet him in a club. He told me the project was 'cool' and asked that I keep in touch through his PA and that was the end.

Raising funds outside is almost impossible. I've had good referrals but it seems mentioning that the project is in Nigeria signifies the end of the conversation.

I'm sick and worried of Nigeria. Fraudsters are damaging our reputation. Bankers are stealing monies from customers, insecurity is forcing farmers to stay at home, politicians are looting public funds, and pastors are exploiting members in the name of God.

The worst part is you're expected to own a GLK, else the society will look down on you. A landlord once told me to my face that I don't look like a yahooboy and he doubts I can afford his apartment.

I just don't know if I can be hopeful for Nigeria. If with my education, exposure and the little privileges I've hard, Nigeria still deals with me, what of the many others in the slums? No education and not support systems?

Hi,

I am going to be moving to Lagos Nigeria this week for a job. I don't know anyone in the city and going to without any friends in the start atleast.

just need some ideas about things to do here that are safe and relatively easy to do both after office in weekdays and in weekends.

I want to know things you can do alone and well as with people eventually.

I am.not the most outdoor, party or sports kind of person so tourists type things might not all be applicable to me.

to the kinds brothers and sister of this sub-reddit, kindly give me some suggestions.

PS. I hope none of this sounds judgemental towards the city. just wanted some help for a person with no knowledge about the city apart from instagram and Google.

MTN please fix your network, my fiancee travelled to Lagos for Easter since Thursday,

and she hasn’t been able to receive video calls because of your bad network service.

Even normal call is only in the morning🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️💔💔.

Is everyone experiencing the same 🙂

I would say I spent the majority of my day researching space related concepts, and finally watching the fly by for many hours.

For folks that tuned in, did you think about Space exploration in Nigeria? I met a lawyer in the US last year, and I was surprised when she told me Nigeria used to have a proper Space Exploration Agency. Infact, she said she was sponsored abroad by same agency. And, she retured to the agency and everything was shite. To rescue her career, she had to move to another country.

I'm sure there are many children and youths excited and curious about the concept of space, galaxies etc. Hopefully, we have a Nigeria that can help satisfy their curiosities.

Good day people,

I thought I should create this post because I really need help.

I am struggling mentally right now and my reasons to keep going are dwindling. I have been dealing with a gambling addiction for over 12 years and it has affected my life in a lot of ways. I also struggle with ADHD symptoms—focus, consistency, and just being able to follow through on things.

I’m 31 now and I feel like I have nothing to hold on to. I have tried several times to pick things up and rebuild, but I keep falling back.

One thing I’ve realized is that I actually have a lot of energy, but I’ve been channeling it into gambling instead of something meaningful. That energy is there, but it’s been going in the wrong direction.

The thing is, I know I’m not useless. I know I’m intelligent and resourceful, but I just haven’t been able to stay consistent or build anything stable.

At this point, I really need help in terms of mentorship and accountability.

I would like to actually start my life and focus on getting it together.

If anyone has gone through something like this or has practical advice on how to get out of this cycle, I would really appreciate it.

I want to live and be useful to society.

https://reddit.com/link/1se8vk9/video/bwrm6nnbfmtg1/player

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