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I'm trying to troubleshoot my bub's 5AM wakeup time... 😬

Meal time seems to be more of a fight or he just gets bored and wants to move on.

He’s always been a good eater, would eat and try anything. Now he’ll eat a little then want to get down and play. I’d say he has one good meal a day then trying to offer healthy, protein snacks and not just puffs, etc.

Pediatrician said to look at the intake over a week, so I’m not worried necessarily, more so is this a phase that passes?

Yesterday, she demanded that everyone (mom, dad, grandpa, grandma, dog) stop what they were doing and watch her do the itsy bitsy spider dance. She was quite graceful too, I had no idea she knew how to do the whole thing.

If someone wasn’t paying attention, she’d stop and point at them until they did pay attention, then she’d continue her dance.

Then shortly afterwards, we had our first serious meltdown because I wouldn’t let her walk and eat a banana at the same time.

Where did my baby go???? When did this opinionated toddler take over?

I didn’t realize it was this weekend (here). oops.

I just typed out a whole thing and it deleted LOL. So basically my son has been waving since 12 months, but it was always like a hand flapping wave, but whatever that’s fine he understood what the gesture meant and when to wave hi and bye. Now for the last few weeks, whenever he waves he is doing the typical “open close” of his hand, but his palm is facing him instead of facing out. I thought it looked so cute but naturally I decided to google if this was a “typical” thing before figuring out to flip your hand outward. Everything that comes up is having waving toward oneself is a sign of autism because they copy the motion exactly as they see it vs understanding that they have to turn their hand out too.

So naturally coming here to see if any of your littles had a phase of waving toward themselves? Is it truly that worrisome? I feel like I always have these little concerns about my son and have since he was really little, and I’m constantly on the fence of wondering if he may be autistic or not (not much speech at all only like 3 words, he gestures, knows his body parts, but then does “stim” occasionally and does not know some items I feel like he should like ball etc so idk truly lol) . Overall I know it’s truly too early but little signs here and there still have me keeping my eyes out (we have a dev pedi for my oldest that already said she’d gladly eval him if I wanted, but to not do it too soon just to waste our time for him to clearly not get any diagnosis from being too young).

My son finally just had his 15 month appointment around 10 days late. He only has 2-3 consistent words with maybe 1-2 more emerging. “Down” and “done” are the two consistent. Dada is used for everything but I can’t say for sure if he attaches it to his dad. And Mama and “up” are starting to seem more consistent. He has 5 signs that he uses independently - more, eat, yes, open, please. His receptive language is on target from what I understand. The pedi said he’s “right on the cusp” and that it’s okay right now. I feel like a sitting duck though? Because our state EI is not free and of TERRIBLE quality, I’m not going to rely on qualifying for their services right now. My insurance won’t pay for speech until 18 months. I cannot afford OOP costs for speech right now. So I feel like I’m failing him or doing him a disservice by just waiting another 3 months. Anyone else in a similar boat with not many words still?

last two days I’ve tried getting baby to sleep for over an hour with no luck. he’ll sleep at night from 830-730ish (usually 11-11.5 hours), with that including time woken up to nurse (at least 3 or so times, big chunks in the morning). he used to do this and would take 1 nap but now he’s been refusing that nap and then just exhausted by the end of the day.

and then of course I want to cry because that’s my only down time all day (to get stuff done but also relax).

a couple websites said about 15 hours a day of sleep (11-12 hrs at night and 2-3 hours of naps).

Man, today fkn sucked. I’ve been home for an hour and I still have this lingering anxiety buzz.

I don’t think I’ve ever had an anxiety episode like this before—it just built up from a bunch of things all at once.

I went to my cousin’s going-away thing at my sister’s house. She has two dogo argentinos and two yorkies, and she scheduled it right at my baby’s bedtime, which already had me wondering if I should even go. But I made a banner, so I went to drop it off.

I get there, I’m starving, she had said she was going to have pizza so I came hungry —but it never came while I was there. Meanwhile, one of the big male dogs kept barking at my 15-month-old, especially when my sister held baby, I saw the doggo did a fake bite at his legs. Then one of the yorkies kept trying to nip at him whenever I set him down to walk.

And then my BIL says I should just let him get bit because “it’s going to happen eventually.” I just walked away and ignored him

At that point, my anxiety just started building. People kept talking to me and I could barely focus on what they were saying. I couldn’t put my baby down because the dogs would rush him, and my sister kept saying I needed to get him used to it.

Finally, I was just like, okay, I’m ready to go. It was already an hour past his bedtime anyway. My sister asked me to wait another 15 minutes for the pizza, but I said no. As we’re leaving, my husband says, “You always freak out”when I apologize for wanting to leave so abruptly. I knew he was enjoying himself—which is ironic because earlier today he told me I’m too calm when the baby gets hurt.

I ended up crying on the drive home. He didn’t notice because it was dark.

I’m still processing everything. I don’t feel like I was overreacting for not trusting those dogs around my baby… but now I’m second-guessing myself.

So my baby, especially during the morning when we are getting ready to go out, the door will cry for everything unless I give him a snack. I don’t want him to cry to tell me that he wants something so what I’ve started doing is ignoring him or I tell him no crying if you want a banana say banana

I think I’m just overstimulated

I hope everyone has a lovely day! 😊

The arrival of warm weather has coincided with my 16 month old being able to walk confidently on rough terrain. It's so nice to have both my children just genuinely enjoy themselves and not be causing havoc. Makes me feel really optimistic about this summer.

As the title says - our son isn’t really happy to see us almost ever. When he wakes up he may look for dad sometimes, and sometimes he gets upset when I leave for work, but otherwise he’s pretty unattached. He also doesn’t really show affection (even though he does hug stuffed animals)

There was a period he was excited to see us, but now instead of being excited he will hold up say a car in his hand and yell “car car car”. While I’m happy he’s acknowledging us, I can’t help but worry that this isn’t normal.

Has anyone had a similar experience? Thanks in advance

I had a miscarriage 10m PP and decided to take a break from trying since I felt I needed to physically heal but now I’m started to miss being able to go to date nights or concerts . Part of my problem is there isn’t trust worthy people who can baby sit. But I still feel sad to think of my baby growing up an only child.

Anyone else struggling with this decision?

Unfortunately there’s some tough stuff going on in my family and I’ve been crying a lot this week. I’m trying not to let it affect my parenting at all but I’m having a hard time containing my grief and at moments I’ve been crying quite hard in front of him. Trying to fake smile and be cheerful in between tears so I don’t upset him. After I put him to bed last night I really cried, loud and long, he stayed asleep the whole time and luckily, I didn’t personally wake him up. But, when he did wake, maybe 45 minutes later (as he does) and I picked him up, for the first time absolutely ever he put his head on my shoulder and and hugged and squeezed me instead of bucking and crying (night wake up things). He’s just started hugging his toys and I get a little cuddle here and there if he gets some screen time, but never like this. I felt a bit guilty as I never want to emotionally appropriate or have my child soothe my emotions but it was also one of my most beautiful moments of motherhood so far. We swayed in his room and did some butterfly kisses and then he went back to sleep.