r/GuerrillaGrrrrls

I believe that patriarchy must be abolished completely, from the roots, not just for the sake of women, but men as well. I believe that the solution to this problem is the merger of feminism with humanism so as to radically re-order society by elevating women (and nonbinary people) to their full potential in a matriarchal society. Here is a manifesto that goes into further detail about this:

ON THE TRUE NATURE OF THE CURRENT MALE PROBLEMS AND HOW THEY COULD BE SOLVED IN A MANNER THAT TURNS THEIR MORAL WEAKNESSES INTO MORAL STRENGTHS:

Men, albeit typically only unconsciously, understand that they are less intelligent, less moral, and less wise than women. Because of this, they become possessed by shame and anger and then, of course, they take these frustrations out on women (and children, which is of course the root of childhood trauma). Another way this effects children is men building their identity around being masculine (which should stop, and they will be taught to stop it and then not being feminine enough to raise children safely and competently or do other necessary tasks will cease to be problems). The way this frustration that men becomes active can happen in one of two main ways: the first is an unsuccessful career, which can be fixed by the implementation of a new politico-economic system that is structured to ensure people can prosper more easily, allowing for a “maternal politico-economic system” (which would make egalitarian use of automation as well as implement a green new deal of some kind). The second is men (because of men being raised by the patriarchy, both within their families and by the patriarchal media to do so) feeling entitled to sex, and when they don’t get it because they’re NOT entitled to it, they take it out on women. I would even argue that when men blame women for being violated, they are actually projecting their own unconscious awareness of THEIR mistakes onto their victims. I believe we can fix this by teaching men to sublimate their sexual desires for women into serving and respecting women as well as the new matriarchal system in general. With this new incentive added to the matriarchal system of governance, men would, if properly taught, love their servitude rather than hate it. Without men imposing shame and violence upon women (or children), they will enjoy a level of mental and spiritual peaceful health that will be utterly unprecedented in human history so far.

ON WHAT THE NEW MATRIARCHAL HUMANIST SOCIETY SHOULD LOOK LIKE AS A WHOLE:

In the new matriarchal humanist society, a new maxim would dictate the social hierarchy from individual families to the wider world as a whole: “MEN WORK AND WOMEN GOVERN, EACH DOING THE TASK THAT THEIR CHARACTERISTICS DETERMINE THEY ARE FIT TO DO”. In the home, women would hold absolute authority over whether to have children and in cases of domestic violence, it would be a felony to believe the husband over the wife. In terms of the wider world, men would generally be excluded from administrative and generally high-ranking roles, with those roles reserved for women and nonbinary people. Religion would, at least officially, be dominated by a secular agnostic goddess worship, including of great women of the past who embody matriarchal humanist values, perhaps with different groups having their own patronesses. Women would be taught in humanistic studies to prepare them for governance while men would be taught to handle the jobs not yet automated out of existence. Empires would break up and militaries would undergo MASSIVE downsizing. Assemblies handling governance would be as small as possible and integration of powers would be favored over their separation, as the problems that principle was meant to constrain would not really be present in the new matriarchal humanist system. Matriarchs who reach a mental state due to age that prevents them from competently doing their jobs would be required to step down and make way for younger women who would make more effective leaders.

HOW TO GO ABOUT ACHIEVING THIS WORLD:

First, get the word out (but be patient, with this step and the others). Second, prepare for a general strike/color revolution by stockpiling provisions and training fellow comrade-sisters after doing the necessary research ourselves. Third, while doing the previous two, win whatever elections you can so as to have friends in high places when the time comes. Fourth, implement the plan outlined in this paragraph so far. Fifth, re-educate men about how to behave in the new society we begin establishing in a manner that blends reconciliation with instruction for those who are well-meaning and can be re-educated and merciless punishment for those who cannot be. Raise children with the ideals explained above and raise awareness of the horrors of the by-then-old world and why they must NEVER EVER be repeated again. Now, comrade-sisters, we have a world to win! COMRADE-SISTERS OF THE WORLD UNITE SO YOUR DAUGHTERS NEED NOT LIVE IN A WORLD WITH THE HORRORS OF THE ONE THAT WE HAD TO GROW UP IN!!!🚺🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🚩

There is a world of difference between a total stranger pinning you down in the street, and giving in to your partner just to shut them up.

The second scenario is obviously not ok, but to call it rape is to trivialize the experience of all the people who have experienced the first scenario.

I don’t know how many times i’ve seen posts on Reddit, with young unexperienced girls telling stories like:

- My partner pulled off the condom without me knowing
- He kept begging and I finally said yes
- I gave consent but I was really drunk
- He put it in my ass without consent but I also didn’t really mind

The comments under these posts are always:

- He raped you, I’m so sorry this happened to you
- Your boyfriend is a rapist
- Honey, you are a rape victim

Let me first clarify that these experiences can obviously be horrible and terrifying, sometimes the guy really is a horrible person and someone you should get away from. But other times it’s much more complicated and confusing. Hence the asking for advice on Reddit.

It’s always the same story in the comments though. People confidently, without a second thought and with very little context, tell these poor girls that they are now rape victims, that their boyfriend is a rapist and that they should break up immediately.

It’s wildly irresponsible and insensitive. You don’t want to tell a young inexperienced person that the bad thing they experienced is “terrible and traumatic”, if it was indeed just “bad”. And potentially just a misunderstanding with their partner.

You also risk causing an unnecessary breakup. It’s possible to forgive your partner if they did something sexual without your consent. But of course you can’t stay with someone that raped you.

Part of the problem is that people feel that calling it “rape” (instead of e.g. sexual assault or non-consensual sex) is somehow more compassionate, in that it validates them and takes their experience seriously. The other part of the problem is that we don’t have great terminology for the full range of sexual misconduct.

And for those 2 reasons, “rape” has had a bad case of “concept creep” where basically any unwanted sexual attention is now called “rape”.

And that’s fine… but then we need a new word for the thing we used to call rape. That thing, that’s the first thing 99% of us think about when we hear the word “rape”.

Because otherwise in the future, when someone comes up to you saying they were raped, you will have very little sense of how serious the situation actually is. And if you are raped yourself, you will have to clarify to everyone that it wasn’t the “mild kind of rape” but “rape rape”.