r/GirlProblems

Because of my weak mindset, all throughout my life I have been heavily dependent on external motivation like podcasts, quotes, youtube videos. During challenging times, I derive my strength from listening to strangers online. And most often than not, it has worked. But lately since I am heading towards my 30th birthday, it feels wrong, stupid and exhausting at times to not have that inner strength and resilience of my own.

I am kind of tired of continuously seeking external validation or confirmation that I can push through. As I am getting older, I find myself asking, how long will I keep doing this? I want to build a stronger mindset for myself and stop living in constant state of doubt waiting for someone else to tell me what I can or cannot do. But I keep falling back into the same pattern.

Is this normal?

I have an important question and I really need some opinions. Last week, my husband said, “Get ready, we’re going out to eat.” I got ready and was waiting, and when I went out to the balcony, he was on his phone. I got upset, and he said, “I’m talking with my mom.”

About 30 minutes later, he came inside and said, “Let’s go,” and I told him I wasn’t going anymore. I said, “How dare you make me wait like that without letting me know you’d be late or even saying, ‘Give me five minutes.’”

Now he’s telling me that I should apologize because I canceled our date night and that I’m not taking accountability. Is he right? Im really getting crazy and i need to know if I’m wrong or I'm being manipulated

so i went to the gynecologist last week due to some breakthrough bleeding. im currently taking Mili and i love it and have had no negative side effects besides that. first issue was my gyno brought several other people into the room to do my pelvic exam which has never happened before. then, she gave me no warning for inserting speculum or anything else she did. turns out she took a sample from me for testing. when i sat up and everyone else left the room, she informed me she was switching my birth control and that i would no longer be able to take it continuously. she didn't tell me what birth control she was switching me to. i told her that my previous gyno had put me on birth control continuously because i have really heavy and painful periods and she literally said "well thats too bad" and got up and left. the birth control she prescribed me is Junel Fe. i have zero interest in switching bc right now as im about to have surgery and need to focus on recovery not new bc side effects and also i just dont wanna switch. am i able to call the office and ask them to just put my previous birth control prescription back into my chart?