r/Friendadvice

In October 2024, during Grade 11, I went through something personal that led me to switch to online school. Around that time, my friend group stopped being there for me and we fell out. It hurt a lot, especially seeing them still hang out on social media, but eventually I started to move on.

In February of this year , one girl from that group reached out. she apologized and said she genuinely regretted how she treated me and that it had been weighing on her. We ended up calling for hours, and later 2 girls from that friendgroup came over to my house so we could talk and reconnect. They both apologized in person, and it actually felt really good and genuine. When we’re together, things feel normal again I don’t feel judged, and we still have the same fun dynamic we used to have.

We don’t go to the same school anymore, but we still live in the same area. It’s my last year here because I’m moving away for university in September, and I really want to spend the summer with people I actually care about and feel good around. We used to have so much fun together in the summer.I’ve been thinking about asking them to get closer again and make plans this summer like we used to,like i want to be included in there group but I don’t want to come off as desperate or pushy. We don’t talk much but when we do it’s never awkward or weird. i snap them and we sometimes call but yeah . What do you guys suggest i do .

So me (22M) and my best friend (22F) are looking at apartments together because we both wanna move to the same city and figured it’d be better than dealing with random roommates.
We found a really nice 3 bedroom apartment for $1950/month. Great location, train station literally downstairs which is huge for me cuz I don’t drive. Place includes water/gas and has all the basic appliances but otherwise unfurnished.
The bedrooms are all roughly the same size, but one has an ensuite bathroom and another has a balcony. She wants the ensuite room, which I was totally fine with because I wanted the balcony room anyway. The 3rd bedroom would mostly be used as her gaming room/extra closet/storage room, though she did offer to let me store stuff in there too like winter jackets and extra things. (But only after we disagreed on how we split rent IF we took the apartment)
When we talked about rent, I suggested splitting it by room since $1950 divides perfectly into $650 each. So I’d pay $650 for my room, and she’d pay $1300 since she’d basically be using 2 rooms. Utilities/internet would still be split 50/50.
But she thinks we should both just pay $975 each because we’re both living there equally.
Now I genuinely don’t know what’s fair anymore lol. On one hand she’s usually a super generous person and has treated me to food a ton before without expecting money back or keeping score. On the other hand, she is still getting more space overall.

In all honesty I'm not in a good place rn. I'm not saying that for sympathy or pity, i just need to say it. I'll try to keep everything as anonymous as possible but idk.

(All people involved are different genders all in early 20's/late teens)

Roughly a month or so ago I chose to step away from my friends because of what happened, my friend group in retrospect is a bit toxic and I should've seen this coming. This all started with Friend 1 and Friend 2 ( F2 and I are the only ones left now), used to be close but as soon as F2 got into a relationship F1 started acting strange; disrespecting boundaries, being hyperfocused on F2, etc. F1 has also inappropriately touched F2 at their workplace. F2 tried to keep strong boundaries up but kept getting pushback or mocked for it. Friend 3 and Friend 4 soon got involved, starting to judge and hold grunges against F2 for not attending school as often and prioritising their life and commitments.

About a month ago F3 & F4 sat F2 and I down for a talk on behalf of F1...they then brought out a script/list or things we had done that had upset them. Ranging from certain words or small things that hurt their feelings to actions they considered bullying like talking together at a party and 'specifically leaving out F1' and for myself taking F1's drink at the same party (I have no recollection of this and am not the type to black out memories when drinking). The way F3 & F4 framed this was intervention style, and kept track of things we had done all the way back from October 2025. F2 stayed calm and rational but I was furious and disappointed in them. F2 and I consider ourselves very forgiving and reliable - our only real deal we make with friends is 'if we do something that upsets you, tell us immediately, hear us out and we're happy to come to an agreement'. We do this so we can not only improve ourselves but improve our relationships with the people around us.

I know this was all started from F1 and I can understand where F3, F4 are coming from with certain things they brought up, but the way they treated us, spoke to us, used our trusted words told people and twisted those words hurts me so bad. Right now we've had to deal with them at school, I haven't said a word to them personally (F2 is the only one to be vocal after the talk). But the way they have spread false rumours about us, speak badly about us to people who have nothing to do with their issues with us, isolate us, make fun of us, avoid us...Its getting too much. Instead of being treated like a person who might've made a few mistakes I feel like a cancerous cell that everyone hates and wants to stay away from. People I was close with now walk on eggshells when they just want to say hello worried they'll get talking to me. They bring extra people into classes with the sole purpose to stare and intimidate us.

I know theres much bigger problems in the world and some of you might not see me this way but I like to think I'm a kind, understanding person whos learning life like everyone else. For the old friends that would preach understanding, communication and prioritising mental health, they have really shown their true colours. I am probably the most depressed I've ever been.

Long story short; if anyone has ever been in a situation like this and come out of it ok...please any advice will help. I dont know whether to confront them, keep ignoring them and trying to go about my life, or what? Please someone give me some way to work through this. I'm so tired.