8 Days No Contact: First Campus Encounter with FA Ex - Need Advice
Hi everyone
The Backstory:
I (M) was in a 2-year relationship with a girl (19). She recently called me her "compensation from God". I am more anxious-expressive; she is a textbook Fearful Avoidant. Things collapsed a month ago because she felt "suffocated" by my requests for 5-minute calls and closeness.
The "Remove":
After a final fight where I refused the "friend zone," she removed me on Snapchat. She said she "hated herself" when with me and felt "rested" during our break. She even screenshotted our last chat where I called her a princess.
The Morning: Visual Contact
• I arrived at university and saw her sitting with a female friend.
• They appeared to be having a normal, happy conversation, but the moment I passed by, her facial expression shifted completely to one of disgust and unhappiness.
• She was so distracted by the encounter that she initially forgot her phone on the couch when they left for class, having to return a few minutes later to retrieve it.
The Second Floor: High Tension
• About 15 minutes later, our classes were located next to each other on the second floor.
• While I was sitting and talking with my friend, she came to the floor, went to the restroom, and upon exiting, saw me again.
• She immediately distanced herself from her friend and walked to class while intensely texting on her phone.
• I tried to force myself not to look at her, but I did catch sight of her.
The 3:00 PM Class: Heavy Silence
• She is usually early like me, but today she arrived 5 minutes late to our shared class.
• I entered the room calmly, made eye contact with the professor, said "Assalamu Alaikum," and went to my seat in the top right corner.
• She sat in her usual spot in the top left corner.
• Throughout the class, I noticed through my peripheral vision that she stayed busy on her phone, texting frequently.
• She was chatting with another classmate, but she had to look in my direction to engage in that conversation.
The Exit & The Highway War
• When class ended, we left at the same time.
• At the door, she saw I was behind her but didn't hold the door fully, only opening it enough for herself to pass through.
• As she walked to her car, she was on a call; she even looked back once while walking.
• We both started our cars and waited about 5 minutes before moving.
• Once she started driving, she was speeding and driving fast.
• At a traffic light, when I was in the third lane and she was in the second, she suddenly swerved hard into the first lane to get away from me.
• At another point, I crossed a fork in the road and ended up directly in front of her car by accident, which made it look like I was intentionally following her.
• Throughout the drive, whenever we ended up near each other at a light, she would make aggressive moves to go to the opposite lane or speed away.
What do u think about her , I know I did a lot of things bad … but ur opinions help