r/Davaoconfessions

I realized recently nga ang "social" part sa social media usahay makahurot sa atong energy. I decided to delete my other account where I used to chat with a lot of people. It was okay for a while I even met a person or two pero naabot ko sa point nga kapoy na gyud siya.

I’m keeping this account strictly for my hobbies or research purposes for certain things na lang. From now on, I’m embracing the lurker life. No more pressure to reply or keep the conversation going. Just here to enjoy what I like.

Here’s to better days and focusing on the things that actually make us happy.

Arggggg gayaaaa sahodddd oiiii, 3 daysssss toooo gooo paaaaaa lamiii naaaa mukaogggggg burgurrrrr huhuhuh librehi ko ninyo bi uwu hahahahahah

- Sa halos adlaw adlaw nako makita akong gym crush, gisum-olan nako sa iya. Welp.. time to find a new gym crush na siguro. Naa na koy new prospect but i’ve only seen him twice this month. He’s already muscular like putok na putok ang shoulders plus he’s tall. My type of guy. 🤤

- Anyway, I just cant with the awkwardness of seeing someone in the gym na you’ve seen/seen you in a dating app. I know he’s seen me on it kay he kept looking at me like “hmm murag siya man tong naa sa Bumble”. 🥴😬

yawaa i dont like it when non hcw rant abt how government hospital hcws are all this and that.

well it is true na dapat dle idisplace sa pasyente ang frustrations and wla na jud professionalism. but how could a hcw function properly if they cant even get basic human necessities themselves like sleep and food.

kalaban ninyo ang government sa tinuod lang for allowing this bulok na systema

15 years of marriage, 20 years together, and Im finally walking away from it

My wife said she was “done” april of last year. I admit, I made my lapses, complacent that cos I didnt cheat or abuse her physically and verbally, and that I was a good provider and helped around house chores that i was good enough..not seeing we drifted apart and basically became housemates (at least in her eyes)

So when she said she was “done” i tried to win her back, being more attentive, randomly sending her food sa office, planning activities all met by her insisting “i have passed the point of no return”

Little did I know, that even before that “split date” She has been very close to a male coworker, even being seen holding hands with him, or constantly seen coming out from the back of the guy’s car (sila lang 2) sa office carpark. Or during pickleball, how she would take out mcdo for the guy if guy is running late, and sasamahan nya kumain pag dating ni guy while the rest of the group is playing na. One time in their office sportsfest she was observed wiping his sweat, another time naman in an office party, guy was peeling shrimps for her while sinubuan nya ng cake. They've always been seen holding hands too

At first their core friend group in the office didnt think much of it, cos barkada nga for so long, till rumours got louder and slowly they realized it was off.

Mind you, she insists they are not having an affair. Guy insists too

We still live together, albeit different rooms. We have a teenage son so me moving out is kinda heavy for me so we just avoid each other at home

I coped by working on my fitness, almost daily sa gym..lifting weights and doing incline walk on my “recovery” days..anything just so i spend less time at home habang gising pa sya. Anyway, me and my son bonds before going home naman. Well at least I have that going well for me, at least for now. I lost weight from 81Kg last December to 67Kg this morning and friends say Im in great shape (if only they knew why lol)

Anyway. She admitted to my best friend (who is also her officemate) na the reason she has been cold and sometimes hostile to me was so Id finally give up and move out. So here, Ive finally made the decision, I will move out. heavy but I hope this is when healing truly starts

I also (finally) confronted the guy, his voice, cracking like a boy caught doing someting wrong, denied it and said it was nothing. Damn mofo, he couldnt even stand up for my wife na nilalandi nya

So after that, I had a talk with her last weekend, and told her, its time I give her what she wants but couldnt tell me. That, while Iam not giving up on the family, this has dragged too much and its not healthy and I cannot live in constant rejection, especially when Ive been walking towards reconcilation and she chose the path with the other guy

I also told her that its already cruel for her to have the affair, but talking to people how bad of a husband I was, to justify her actions while denying her affair, is just a different level of cruelty

That said, I cant imagine dating yet. At this point, im enjoying my newfound “freedom” and just focusing on myself now.

Just sad, 15 good years, all the good memories, all the fun trips both as a couple and as a family, and Im closing the chapter accepting what once was, has ceased to be

Also sad, cos i grew up without a father, my parents separated when I was young and solo child ako. So i held on to the concept of keeping a complete family for a year

TE NANGGAWAS JUD TANAN BUGNAW SA AKONG LAWAS WHEN MY EX TEXTED 'I found your reddit account' HAHAHAHAHHAHAHA LIKE, LITERAL NA TUMIGIL ANG MUNDO KO. Hayop na yan. Bye

Had s3x with a 6’0 guy. Ok naman ang foreplay pero… hindi naman underwhelming ang s3x but hindi rin exceptional haha.

Moral of the story: di tanan tangkad na lalake kay dako ug oh10 🤣

Bago ra namatay ako lolo na mao nahimong father figure nako then this week lang ako mom while nag baksyon with dad and sibling kay na stroke few hours after naabot nila sa place. Then the update today kay need na i-ICU ako mom. I’m in a really deep mess right now and grabe ang toll na ginasingil mentally. I can’t focus sa work and relationships and I don’t know kung unsaon ni ipahungaw. Realist ko na pagkatao and always prepared whatever the outcome is pero bugat lang jud kaayo sa akoa since it’s my first time being in a predicament like this. I might have look fine on the outside pero sa sulod mura kog malata sa kabugaton sa ako ginahuna huna.

Hypothetically— if I want a baby, but dont want a husband/partner/baby daddy, what is the safest way to do it?

IVF is expensive. Adoption is not possible too (just because I want to be pregnant).

Tricking someone through one night stand seems unethical pud… which leaves me with nothing? Any recos? What do you think?

Need jud kog outside perspective kay honestly this situation is eating me alive na jud. Ambot if OA lang ba ko, insecure, too emotional, or valid ba jud akong feelings.

Accidentally nag kita mi ni ex somewhere in Davao. ACCIDENTALLY. Before that, me and my ex kay nag break before (7 months mi nag buwag). During sa among breakup, naa siyay gina entertain na mga babae. I know technically single mi ato na time, so kabalo ko naa siyay right makig date ug lain. Dili man jud akong issue ang fact na naa siyay naka relasyon after namo. Ang problem kay unsay nahitabo AFTER nag reconnect nami balik.

Before mi officially nagbalik, niingon siya sakua ani:

“naka decide nako dili ko gusto magtry ta balik, mahadlok ko ma lose akong self nasad. tama nani, sorry. di pajud ko ready ug di ko willing and wala man sad ko nimo ginatabangan na ipa feel sakua na saligan kag balik mahadlok jud ko, sorry.”
Bisan walay third party sa reason sa among pag buwag, and mutual ang break-up. Kanang kaming duha nag agree nga “ok, need nato mag buwag, kineme-kineme”

I respect his decision. Grabe nakong hilak ato na gabii, ni adto ko ug pub to drink a little kay para inig uwi nako maka sleep dayon ko. Then later on , as I was paying my bills, gitawagan ko niya, gipapaadto ko niya sa iyang place, and Oo si gaga ni adto sa iyang place, nagka okay mi ato na gabii, nagka close balik emotionally, then eventually nagbalik mi.

Then later on, dira nako slowly nadiscover tanan things na wala niya giingon honestly.

Before mi officially nagbalik, gidiretso nako siya gi ask if nakipag sex ba siya ato na mga babae. Kay habang naga reconcile mi, naa na syay na share sa akoa na naa daw syay “isa” lang daw ka babae gipa adto sa iyang place.
Iyang tubag: “Wala”

Lie diay to.

Woman #1 (Lets call her Eur):
Nahimbaw.an nako later on na school mate sila ani, and ni adto diay ni sa iyang place sa davao.
They had sex and unprotected pa jud. Natulog pud siya sa iyang place sa davao. Sige sila ug duwa online games together, which is among thing sauna before mi nag break. Gi introduce pa jud niya si girl sa iyang gaming friends na sila Pokemon and Baboy (nicknames lang na), which are people na kauban pud nako magduwa before. Then sa sige nako ug check sa iyang phone kay nakakita ko messages na giingon niya na si Eur daw “pinaka best” niya when it comes to sex. Murag dili nako ma explain unsa kasakit basahon ato. Murag naapektuhan akong self-worth, akong confidence, pati intimacy.

But gi end ra dayon niya iyang relationship with ate girl kay naa pud syay gi entertain laing babae ani nga time.
Gi end niya ang thing nila ni Eur tungod kay gusto “daw” niya mag focus kang Rain (Woman number 2)

Woman #2 (Rain):
Nakipag sex pud siya ani niya. Ate girl went to his place sa davao, nag date pud sila around Tagum and davao. Gipalitan siya ni girl ug foods, grabs, and games sa Steam, which is something na ginabuhat pud nako sauna para sa iyaha. Nag post pa gani siyag IG story na gi tag si girl ug nag thank you sa game, same thing sa akoa everytime palitan nako sya ug games.

Unya while nag reconnect nami balik, ga contact gihapon sila. Ang mas sakit ang way niya para mag end sila ni girl kay iyang gi giilad si Rain. Instead maging honest siya about namo, niingon siya na gusto sa daw niya “mangita sa iyang self” ug “dili daw siya right para kang Rain”.

Diraa pana niya gi buhat tung fully na nako nadiscover ang details and told him about it.

Until now ga follow gihapon siya atong mga girls on social media even though he knows how uncomfortable sa akoang part.

During our break up, yes I also dated other men. Pero NEVER jud ko nakipag intimate with those people, NEVER nakipag sex and make-out. Only date. they courted me and honestly, dili jud
ang sex akong main issue karon.

Ang issue najud kay:
ang lying.
ang pagtago.
ang overlap.
ang fact na diretso nako siya gi ask before and he lied straight to my face.
ang fact na nakabalik ko niya nga dili complete ang truth na akong nahibal-an.

Now every time makahuna huna ko sa things na ilang gibuhat together, dili na nako gusto buhaton pud namong duha. Gaming together, dates, intimacy, mag stay sa iyang room, sex, even simple bonding moments, tanan murag contaminated na sakong utok. Murag suffocating siya na feeling.

Gi try nako ni ug address multiple times saiyaha, kay gusto jud nako ma fix among relationship properly. Pero every time mag open up ko, mahimong emotionally overwhelming tanan to the point na nahadlok nalang ko mag bring up balik sa issue. Mag end nga mag sige sya ingon na “maypag mamatay sya” “pakamatay daw sya”. Syempre ko nga nag care sa tao, mag worry ko nga pasakitan niya iyang sarili. Ginapaningkamotan nako mo sabot sa iyang traumas ug fears, pero staying in this situation kay murag slowly na naga kuha sakong self-respect. Gusto nako buhaton niya ang sakto dili kay gipugos nako siya, pero kay naa siyay respect sakua ug concern sa akong peace of mind.

Pero murag dili niya kaya.

And ang thought na sige jud ug balik balik sakong utok kay:

“If I knew everything from the start, would I have agreed to come back?”

I still love him deeply, mao siguro grabe ka sakit ani tanan.
Pero at the same time, emotionally exhausted, insecure, suffocated, ug drained na kaayo ko trying to stay patient and understanding.

Naglagot ko in the worst ways possible. Ako post diri na sub puro nalang jd kalagot hahahaha.

Pls. Stop asking questions if dili mo gusto marealtalk. Hahaha my bf expressed he was pressured kay i’m going to law school na this year and asked na ipagpalit ba daw nako siya. (For context he’s a college dropout, currently in the BPO world)

And I said NO, kay i’m not that kind of person BUT. Yes naay but. I value my peace and stability in the future kay in this economy? charot hahaha. So I said na naay possibility na muhawa ko if he chooses to stay that way (hanggang diraa lang, akoa pa gitranzlate kay wa kasabot ang amaw)

After that? He gave me the cold shoulder, wa ko gisturya until now lol.

ambot basta naglagot ko

To all reader dre. take note mga boss. Sa katong curious mag try og walker. daghan kog. kaila, sa mga gusto ra ha. di tamo pugson, Naa koy gc sa telegram pero naa tay fee. naa tanan choices nako didto. Di tamo pugson ha. sa kato raning mga curious Davao Base rata,

Everything stops when loneliness gets through you jud. Kahit ilang side quests pa ang puntahan o salihan mo, kapag tinamaan ka ng ligaw na lungkot, himlay malala talaga hahahaha

You could be doing well, keeping yourself busy, going out, meeting people, trying new things, pero may random moments talaga na biglang tatama yung emptiness out of nowhere

There’s really a different kind of bliss and solace in doing things alone.

To be honest, ever since I started going out solo, whether it’s dining out or just grabbing a drink—my life has felt so much happier. It’s definitely cooler than before. I’ve tried so many new restos, met different people, and learned things I wouldn't have otherwise. Hay, lami gyud kaayo ang kinabuhi.

At this stage, whenever people ask why I’m still single at 28, I honestly just think, 'For what?' Lol. Tbh, I still crave for some lambing sometimes, but it eventually passes. Getting into a relationship is nice, sure, but I just don't want to spend my energy on the wrong person again. Plus, I’m genuinely having the best time being single.

Just sharing this because I’m happy and grateful. If I stayed in my comfort zone, I wouldn't be doing any of this. Naa gyud diay rainbow after the rain.

If you’re at that point where you’re finally choosing what’s good for you instead of what gives you a temporary high… just know… healing is boring sometimes. Discipline is boring. Peace is boring.

And every day, you’ll be tempted to go back to the chaos that felt exciting.

I’m always aiming for self-improvement… but sometimes my brain just goes, ✨let me ruin this real quick for character development✨

Grabe ka lingaw first time nako mu biyahe pa abroad para mu-laag. 🤣

Buzzer beater sa boarding gate sa manila kay astang taasa sa linya sa immigration.

5 minutes pud mi nag storyahanay sa I.O pero okay man walay aberya kay kompleto man ko sa documents.

Pag abot sa country kay medyo nanibago ko kay solo traveller ra ko. Kapoy pero lingaw kaayo ko pag uli diri sa Pinas.

Naa pa ko laag hangover hahaha

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Money can't buy happiness jud. I'm happy naman sakong fam, friends, and all. Pero nganong murag naay kulang sakoa? Kapoy ko. Gikapoy na jud ko.