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Am I insane or Am i getting manipulated…….

At every job there’s always one person you’re destined to clash with. In this case it was jamie. Jamie was dating another coworker named Jeremiah. Besides the point…. just about all of us clashed with her some more than others but we definitely didn’t get along. As the week went on people were starting to be more verbal to jamie telling her to basically buzz off and I can admit some things definitely got out of hand. She told our boss she was being bullied and i don’t tolerate bullying but sometimes in the moment you forget how much things can affect people.

Individual meetings started to be held our boss called us in as groups of 2 but not all at once. “The bullying of Jamie has gotten absolutely out of hand and I won’t have it.” Me and the girl who got called in agreed and said we would comply. Our boss told us the bullying was so out of hand the the girl wanted to harm herself. We both instantly felt so sick I remember saying I need to throw up that’s horrible. Imagine being the person that had said such horrible things that someone wanted to end their life. I felt horrible I told my boss my parents absolutely raised me better than that and that it was horrible that only after hearing ab the attempt of harm that we would feel bad. Our boss also mentioned that they had a file of all the rude things that we had either said or done. I was too focused on the issue at hand that it slipped over my head. We have two bosses one is over the other and she said that one night she found jamie sobbing in her car and all the things we had said to jamie were absolutely horrible. I wasn’t working the night she was describing but I still listened. My main boss mentioned that jamie’s parents had called up to work threatening to sue everyone who had bullied jamie. Me and the girl in the meeting were okay to face the consequences of our actions. About five days ish go by……

We ask Jamie and Jerimahs best friend Peter how Jamie was doing he responded with what are you guys talking about she’s the happiest she’s been in a long time… obviously hearing that from peter was a shock because it had only been a couple days later it messed with my head all night. How could someone be the happiest they’ve been in a while but wanting to harm themselves, (want to quit their job forgot to mention ), have their parents call up to their work, cry in the car, have a file of the things that were done etc..

I finally decided to call Jamie and Jeremiah I wanted to hear myself that she was doing better and that everything was ok. I called and said hey something happened at work if this sounded accurate you don’t have to tell me if it’s to personal just want to know if your okay… i explain the story to Jamie and Jeremiah just like our bosses told us. After I ended it Jamie and Jeremiah were in such a state of shock. Jamie said yes i’m tired of all the drama at work but never would i ever try and harm myself over my job. …. In the moment i’m so confused because our bosses told us that she was trying to harm….. I said our boss told us your parents called up trying to sue about the situation. To which her and Jeremiah scream out “ WHAT ON EARTH ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT”. So once again my jaw drops i’m like this was a big deal I was crying and throwing up about the whole situation what do you mean your parents didn’t call? She tells me Nala i’m 24 why would my

parents be calling up to my job treating to sue for bullying i’m baffled at this point. She admits to me that her feelings were hurt and she did talk to our boss about it but she swears it was only like a 5-8 minute conversation and then it was done with. I then go on to mention the crying in the car… which you might’ve guessed it was another lie. She said she did cry once about work but it was when she got home. Our second boss had mentioned how horrible the day was when people were dog piling Jamie but gave no details about it. Jamie told me that our second boss told them she was tired of how people were treating jamie and jamie tried to ask our boss what was said and she wouldn’t budge. I then went on to ask ab the file that they had on the coworkers and jamie told me that they had nothing because everything had been verbal. But that both of our bosses asked Jamie and Jeremiah for any proof of the coworkers doing anything to essentially “frame us”. I ended up telling jamie how awful it was that she would out her business despite it not being true if someone’s ever struggling with harm that’s their business and not for the coworkers to be debating about. She agreed and said she overall just felt more stupid than helped and that it escalated the situation more than anything. She thanked me for reaching out and I thanked them for being honest and helping and they the bullying is something that never should’ve happened in the first place.

I told their higher up today about everything that happened and currently waiting for what’s to come

Im back……. I get called into the office w the higher up and my boss. As soon as I walk in the higher up goes the disrespect to your boss is insane she said it’s been 10 minutes and you and your boss haven’t exchanged words I find it disrespectful . I said “ I didn’t think we were on talking terms” Oh since when my boss said since when you called my higher up on the phone??! I’m just sitting in a state of shock i’m getting sold out and mind you i’m best friends with the higher ups daughter…….. She’s screaming at me stop sticking your nose in places it doesn’t belong yall have a huge group you bullied jamie now yall are bullying me. Do you wanna know how I know that jamie wanted to harm herself she said and I said why??! Because Jeremiah told me in private that if jamie knew that he was the one who told her she’d break up with him. So in that moment I bring my guard down and apologize because what i’m hearing sounds believable I apologize blah blah. Things still aren’t sitting right w me after the meeting so I confront the best friend be real with me let me know. He said yo me this is the most insane lie do you think jamie would know she’d want to end her life. I can’t tell if i’m being manipulated by my boss and my world was spinning shortly after the meeting we got assigned with a 30 task long task list that consisted of scrub the walls with a toothbrush basically and we couldn’t sign off on it our other boss had to inspect it and sign off on it.

Well today one of our friend coworkers gets fired… mind you this coworker is working with her bf and her sister…. they pull her into the office bc jamie originally filed on this coworker 2–3 weeks ago but they fire her because someone wanted to end their life. She said she got a phone call Monday and she investigated the issue thought she resolved it and then she said she got another phone call today. I’m the monday phone call so now we’re stuck investigating who the second phone call was help.

At every job there’s always one person you’re destined to clash with. In this case it was jamie. Jamie was dating another coworker named Jeremiah. Besides the point…. just about all of us clashed with her some more than others but we definitely didn’t get along. As the week went on people were starting to be more verbal to jamie telling her to basically buzz off and I can admit some things definitely got out of hand. She told our boss she was being bullied and i don’t tolerate bullying but sometimes in the moment you forget how much things can affect people.

Individual meetings started to be held our boss called us in as groups of 2 but not all at once. “The bullying of Jamie has gotten absolutely out of hand and I won’t have it.” Me and the girl who got called in agreed and said we would comply. Our boss told us the bullying was so out of hand the the girl wanted to harm herself. We both instantly felt so sick I remember saying I need to throw up that’s horrible. Imagine being the person that had said such horrible things that someone wanted to end their life. I felt horrible I told my boss my parents absolutely raised me better than that and that it was horrible that only after hearing ab the attempt of harm that we would feel bad. Our boss also mentioned that they had a file of all the rude things that we had either said or done. I was too focused on the issue at hand that it slipped over my head. We have two bosses one is over the other and she said that one night she found jamie sobbing in her car and all the things we had said to jamie were absolutely horrible. I wasn’t working the night she was describing but I still listened. My main boss mentioned that jamie’s parents had called up to work threatening to sue everyone who had bullied jamie. Me and the girl in the meeting were okay to face the consequences of our actions. About five days ish go by……

We ask Jamie and Jerimahs best friend Peter how Jamie was doing he responded with what are you guys talking about she’s the happiest she’s been in a long time… obviously hearing that from peter was a shock because it had only been a couple days later it messed with my head all night. How could someone be the happiest they’ve been in a while but wanting to harm themselves, (want to quit their job forgot to mention ), have their parents call up to their work, cry in the car, have a file of the things that were done etc..

I finally decided to call Jamie and Jeremiah I wanted to hear myself that she was doing better and that everything was ok. I called and said hey something happened at work if this sounded accurate you don’t have to tell me if it’s to personal just want to know if your okay… i explain the story to Jamie and Jeremiah just like our bosses told us. After I ended it Jamie and Jeremiah were in such a state of shock. Jamie said yes i’m tired of all the drama at work but never would i ever try and harm myself over my job. …. In the moment i’m so confused because our bosses told us that she was trying to harm….. I said our boss told us your parents called up trying to sue about the situation. To which her and Jeremiah scream out “ WHAT ON EARTH ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT”. So once again my jaw drops i’m like this was a big deal I was crying and throwing up about the whole situation what do you mean your parents didn’t call? She tells me Nala i’m 24 why would my

parents be calling up to my job treating to sue for bullying i’m baffled at this point. She admits to me that her feelings were hurt and she did talk to our boss about it but she swears it was only like a 5-8 minute conversation and then it was done with. I then go on to mention the crying in the car… which you might’ve guessed it was another lie. She said she did cry once about work but it was when she got home. Our second boss had mentioned how horrible the day was when people were dog piling Jamie but gave no details about it. Jamie told me that our second boss told them she was tired of how people were treating jamie and jamie tried to ask our boss what was said and she wouldn’t budge. I then went on to ask ab the file that they had on the coworkers and jamie told me that they had nothing because everything had been verbal. But that both of our bosses asked Jamie and Jeremiah for any proof of the coworkers doing anything to essentially “frame us”. I ended up telling jamie how awful it was that she would out her business despite it not being true if someone’s ever struggling with harm that’s their business and not for the coworkers to be debating about. She agreed and said she overall just felt more stupid than helped and that it escalated the situation more than anything. She thanked me for reaching out and I thanked them for being honest and helping and they the bullying is something that never should’ve happened in the first place.

I told their higher up today about everything that happened and currently waiting for what’s to come what punishment do you think the 2 bosses should get

Hello all,

Working in the office at a club looking to change to Jonas or Northstar from a very old in house system. Can someone that has experience with Jonas and/or Northstar tell me a little about their experience with reporting? Are house accounts including both pro shop and F&B? Can you export all tee times for a given year?

Another thing is does Jonas or Northstar have a decent CRM for reaching out to members or will we have to stick to our external CRM? Biggest benefits and biggest gripes? Thank you all.

I’ve only been working at the country club for a little while and let me tell it’s the weirdest feeling i’ve ever experienced. The “polite” racism and their constant demand of this is how things were in my day is insane.

If you’re not kissing ass then you can kiss your job goodbye… The members want you to know their name, family tree their drink orders “how they like things done” for example can I have a aperol spritz but only “how tiffany makes it” failure to have it made by tiffany results in the members texting your boss. “Wish tiffany was here to make our aperol spritz tasted a bit watered down love you 💕!!! Your boss tells them to describe who made the drink and they describe the person who made it. To which then your kiss ass boss will get the person who made the drink “ I keep getting complaints from the exact family to which the person at the bar knows the exact family that the said boss is talking about.

The most indirect confrontation will be head “ You guys did nothing wrong sometimes the members are just annoying”. When in reality she told the members she rip the person who made the drink wrong into shreads.

One night your working and things finally start slowing down you don’t get a break btw because your assigned to a section with at least 3 tables each there’s no time for you to leave your table stranded for even 10 minutes because if you do the members report back to your boss “wish we got to see our server tn! It was a game of hide and seek” held by a meeting that went a lot like you guys are amazing but tn you all fucking sucked every freaking one of you did i mention that my boss cusses like a sailor? Everyone one of you sucked we must be perfect 100% of the times at this point in my job id only been working

for about 2 weeks maybe 6 real days on the job in those 6 days you needed to have the menu memorized because you’d me met with the text of “menu quiz next tuesday get to studying” same applied for knowing the members 45th grand child. We’d constantly hear “ there are “important people coming don’t fuck it up because you’ll have to find a new job” But once my boss realized it was just one of the grand children of the person with the huge last name the vibe shifted…. “oh it’s not the original smiths false alarm” My boss put them on levels of importance but the whole time …. she was a middle class women who didn’t attend college who was actively cheating or pretending she wasn’t married depending on what member was talking to her oh and her husband was a cook upstairs. I’m pretty sure members didn’t know this but she sure did flash around her big diamond ring to the staff “ I’d never do lab grown I need a real diamond” For a real diamond that thing fell off twice but I chose to ignore it.

The boss had an assistant who I thought was gonna be my ride or die I learned quickly the type of person my bosses assistant was some backstory and context their “bffs” I don’t know about yall but i’ve never worked a job where my manager had a best friend who happened to be the assistant that did absolutely nothing….. there were occasional times she did things but I always thought of it more like a performance she was always acting she’d come out of the office where she’d been hiding for an hour watching tiktoks and hitting her vape every time she came out of the office she would always find one thing to be mad about and act like she was top dog…… “there’s a table outside 2 top they need a diet coke and water now” she acted as if we weren’t 30 seconds after her to greet the table then she’d tell our managers we weren’t doing anything and to send 2 of us home when the main boss was gone she was just okay it’s almost as if she took a break from performing but had the scariest attitude ever.

I’m the head chef/kitchen manager at a country club in the upper Midwest. It’s the first dinner service of the season tonight, members only, and I’m running the kitchen solo. The menu is tiny (4 sandwiches, 4 apps). I’m well-prepped and equipment-tested, and yet I am absolutely sweating about it. Hopefully for nothing as I tend to do that. This is my third season in my position. I’ve seen FOH management come and go every year, but this year we have an experienced and locally-loved GM filling that spot this year. A lot of new changes due to that. Fortunately, I am heavily in favor of everything that has been recently implemented and I’m very hopeful about this season. And yet, my anxiety is through the roof. Not sure what my point is, but I figured this would be the place to express this to folks who understand. Thanks for reading.

Update: I knocked it out of the park. One of my deep fryers went down for reasons beyond my understanding, but I made it work with just one. Members were very pleased with the quality of the food and the speed of the service. I do it again tonight with the assistance of one of my returning chefs. If last night is any indication of how this season is going to go, it’ll be a good year. Thanks, again, to those that read and commented.

Hey! Random one but I’m really interested in becoming a golf cart girl handing out drinks/snacks at courses/country clubs or events (if this is even a thing in England) as my summer job, or anything else fun at a country club!

Does anyone know how to get into this space or what sort of places to approach (Buckinghamshire, London, Greater London, Middlesex)? I am happy to show my face and go in person however I know such openings are not often formally advertised. Any tips on where to start would help a lot.

Thank you!