r/BetterTeenIndia

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teacher r changing

demotivating students and a disruptive class environment

I'm in class 11, and I have not joined any coaching yet

So I'm confused regarding NEET, what to join and what not to

Yrr koi delhi se h to s.x sux chahiye mujhe 😭😭😭

I’m 17M, studying in an integrated program at a massive coaching insti. I’ve been here 4 years, so I have a good rapport with everyone. Last April, our maths class had a new substitute mam, let's call her PS (23). Since around JEE Advanced our HOD's become busy, PS was handling our class. She taught well and was very friendly with our class, and since we were only 3 people, the vibe was chill. Ps took classes for about two months and we had a good time and then nothing happened. Then around July, I was getting a drink from the bottom shelf of a fridge at a store next to insti and something fell out of my pockets. Out of nowhere, PS comes from behind and picks it up for me, then some small talk wagera while billing. She paid for me and I didn't think much because it was a small amount and didn't want to weird out. Next day me and one of my friends were sitting in a study room and PS comes—although she never comes here—and sits behind us. At some point while speaking with my friend, I told her that yaar I also want to play music while solving these questions (I had a button phone then to get rid of distractions) and how I will ask my parents to buy me a mp3 player. Around 2 days later, I was sitting in the cafeteria alone because hamare classes late khatam hue the. PS comes to the cafeteria, sits in front of me, and starts talking about classes and the future. Towards the end of convo, unhone apne bag se mp3 player ka box nikala and handed it to me. I was like mam this is really nice but I cant take this home, mummy papa ko kya bolunga this is expensive. But she basically shoved it in my lap saying that bol dena ki 10th boards ke result ke liye insti ne di hai. I was like thank you mam this is really sweet. Tabhi I completely saw this as a nice caring gesture from an elder, that's it. Over the next few weeks, me and PS would often eat together in the cafeteria and talk, and after I reached home we would text for a few minutes. Then around October, we had math olympiad classes lined up for 1.5 hours everyday after regular classes. I was ranting to PS about how this sucks because if I leave for home at 7:30, then due to traffic I'll reach after 9 only. PS went and fought with the management and my HOD's for hours and got our classes for the entire day preponed by around 2 hours. I was like PS thank you so much you are a god 🙏. Now that my evenings were free, PS suggested we solve olympiad questions, so I used to be in the insti for around 1 hour post-classes. We became really friendly and I started calling her by her name only. On Diwali, she even uploaded a selfie with me on IG with some Bestie caption (maine nahi dekha par mera dost insta chalati hain). One day post classes, she says bahar chalte hai we'll do INMO pyq's. I was like very cool PS ruko I'll get my classmates, and she said nahi wo baad main karlenge. We went to her flat (15 mins from insti) and were too productive till like 8pm. I was like arey PS nikalna hoga abhi bahut late hogaya and she said pehle dinner karlete hai. I called papa and PS spoke with my parents and explained and parents were chill about it. Then outta nowhere PS pulls out some 3 outfits of exactly my size and says that I'll feel uncomfortable in the uniform, change karlo. I was like woah it's ok but I was just too whatever and went along. Bro we had the best night ever, went and ate almost every best streetfood available and she had hyped timarisu too much so ate that also. We go back to her flat and it's already 11pm. PS said isse accha kal subah seedha coaching chale jaana. Parents agreed it was too late so I stayed back and we gossiped till like 3am. From Jan to Feb, we went out a few times. Best was when I was in a bad mood cuz I didn't qualify for some stage and we went out to timezone and ate tons of junk food. I loved what we shared, I had a perfectly mature vibe and bond with her and I adored her.

But around March, I started noticing PS was getting way too comfortable. Discussing wayy too personal things, holding my elbows whenever we were walking, and making sort of romantic jokes. Sort of those type of reels, and she was also getting a bit overly touchy than usual. Slowly started connecting the dots over the past few months and it sort of destroyed my head. I was weirded out and slowly speaking lesser with PS. 2 days back she basically confronted me in the cafeteria at like gunpoint and said tu itna alag kyu behave kar raha hai? I said am worried about exams and she believed me and said ok we'll watch Project Hail Mary this week. I tried pushing it off saying arey woh movies IMAX main hee dekhna chahiye, mere standards gir jayenge and all, and she instantly booked 2 IMAX tickets for 1000 rupees. I sort of can't back out so I jaes I guess am going tomorrow evening. I don't know if it's just me overthinking, but I am starting to feel this heading into a non-platonic thing. I am worried about the repercussions it may have on my academics, my general social life, and even my relationship with PS. I really love what me and her have and don't want to unnecessarily disrupt it, so I am confused as hell. Please don't pass some cheap comment and give me some genuine insight. Am I just being too big of an overthinker?