Hi, i’m not really sure how to write this but i’m just gonna try to explain everything
i’m 20 and i’ve been homeless since july 2025. i left my parents because of abuse that’s been going on since i was a kid (cps was involved when i was really young). last year i just hit a breaking point and left in the middle of the night
since then i’ve been trying to figure things out however i can. i couch hopped for a while, went to grand rapids and stayed at a shelter, then moved in with a business owner who offered me a job and a place to stay. that didn’t work out at all, i was working as an assistant manager but getting underpaid and treated pretty badly so i left
after that i stayed with someone i met online who said he could help. i was there for like 4 months. during that time he kept saying he couldn’t afford heat, groceries, or even rent, so i got a job, got on snap, and was giving most of what i had to help
later on i found out he was spending money on things like concerts and mtg tournaments out of state, so the situation wasn’t what i thought it was and i left
i got another job and went back to a shelter i had stayed at before but it got really unsafe, there were fights, police showing up, people making threats, so i didn’t feel like i could stay there
i stayed with my boyfriend for a little bit but i can’t stay there long because of housing rules where he lives
before going back to my parents, i even tried signing up for the military because i just wanted a stable way out, but i was turned down because i’m about 40 lbs over the requirement
i ended up going back to my parents because i had no other option but it got worse. i have recordings of it and my boyfriend has seen how they treat me
the most recent time i left was because i went on a weekend trip with my boyfriend. we got into an accident and couldn’t afford the gas to get back the day i was supposed to
when i told my parents what happened, they called me and said i’m not allowed to come back at all and that they’ll call the police if i show up
all my documents are still there and they basically told me to figure it out
right now i’m staying in my boyfriend’s car/room but i can’t stay here much longer
i’ve been calling 211 every day and reaching out to shelters all over michigan and pretty much everything is full or closed. i’ve also tried places like salvation army and similar programs and keep running into the same issue
i’ve also tried calling food pantries and donation centers, but a lot of them told me they can’t help because i’m not a resident of the county i’m currently in
i’m also applying to jobs and calling staffing agencies trying to get something asap. i had a job before but lost it when everything happened recently
some of the staffing agencies i’ve contacted:
- workbox staffing – called, left voicemail
- express employment – did an interview, was told to call back once i’m in a shelter
- infinity staffing – called, left voicemail
- forge industrial staffing – filled out application, completed safety training + quiz, waiting on a call back
i also have my permit and i’m trying to get my license but i don’t have a car so i don’t really know how to finish that right now
i do have snap and medicaid but i still struggle with food sometimes and have been doing whatever i can to get by
i have an interview tomorrow (tuesday) with a shelter in muskegon
i’m gonna list some of the places i’ve already called just so people know i’m actually trying
- haven of rest – full (night shelter only)
- inasmuch – full
- the haven – night shelter only
- ywca – full, no waitlist
- cora lamping – full
- safe center – full
- silvia’s place – did intake, full
- resilience / hillman / siren – closed or full
- city rescue mission – couldn’t help
- mel trotter – couldn’t help
- every woman’s place – full
- rave – waitlist maybe end of may
- blue water safe horizons – full
- underground railroad – full
- gateway mission women & children – full
(and a lot more… most either didn’t answer, had disconnected numbers, or told me the same thing)
at this point i just feel stuck. i’m trying every day but nothing is opening up
if anyone knows of anything i might’ve missed, shelters, programs, jobs, anything at all i’d really appreciate it
also if anyone knows how i could get my documents back from my parents safely that would help a lot too
thank you for reading