Avoiding the unhappy and unlucky is actually a very realistic advice
I will give you two of my school year friends example.
I will each call them Joe and Carl.
Let's go with Joe first. I was really good friends with him. We shared same taste for movies and humors.
But he is from poor backgrounds. Unemployed.
When I got into law-school, instead of congratulating me, Joe mocked at me because I will fail. It was kinda weird, but I brushed it off. He literally said 'your life is ruined!!'
Before you say anything, NO. I didn't brag about getting into lawschool. He asked me how I was doing, what I was doing, I said I got accepted into Lawschool. And that shit happened.
Anyway, my first bar exam was last year. I failed. I told my school year friend Jane about it.
NOT JOE. JANE.
And about a week later. Joe called me and 'asked' how did it go with bar exam. When I said I failed, he gleefully jeered at me.
Like
'Oh so just because your parents and your siblings were smart, you thought you would be the same?'
'Oh, what are you gonna do when your parents retire?'
'My friends' sister became a lawyer long time ago and is now on her way to become a law clerk. What's wrong with YOU?'
I was kind a hurt, but I played along with him. And he got over excited and blurted out 'Man, it was so funny when I heard that you failed so I called you-'
So he already KNEW that I had failed and yet 'asked' about it as if he didn't know.
When I pointed that out, he kept denying 'no I said it wrong'.
Being unemployed and poor mad him bitter.
I made a few more harmless jokes to continue the conversation, and then He turned to ANOTHER friend of ours who failed the exam to become a low-ranking official. Like 'what's he gonna do? He's already almost 30. Becoming a low-ranking official NOW ain't gonna get him anywhere!'
Jesus Christ. He was SPOUTING his resentment EVERYWHERE.
Right after I hung up on him, I blocked him.
Another example. Carl. Also unemployed and poor backgrounds. School-year friend.
This one is short. He, joined a freaking CULT. And tried to set up a meeting with me, so that he can get ME to joining the cult.
It was a typical cult tactic.
All of sudden, he wanted to introduce a law-school student to me..(Carl ain't even related to law school.)
But what he says about that guy makes no sense...I knew because I AM a law-school student, and what Carl said about doesn't make sense if he really were a law-school student.
And Carl suddenly said if he could come to my town because conveniently, that guy was also living in my town so we could meet up.
Carl even checked on other friends to see if I am busy. When I said, 'let's meet up with other friends too!!' And Carl was hesitant about it.
We ALWAYS met up in a group. And NOW he is hesitant about it?? And he suddenly wants to 'introduce me' a law school student? Why?
Carl kept baiting me into saying like 'This guy knows many people in YOUR law-school' but doesn't even know which Law-school I am going.
Yep. That was it. I also blocked Carl while alerting the other friends about it.
Cult is a serious problem in our nation. Many unemployed, troubled people join them.
Anyway, that's two of my examples.
Avoid the unhappy and the unfortunate.