r/20sIndiaRelationships

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What's your age gap in relationship?

What's your age gap in relationship? Does age really matter? 🧐

Share your relationship gaps in the comment section..

I hope I'll get the answers..

Ignore:

May 13, May 13, May 13, May 13, May 13

u/Standard-Secret2841 — 1 day ago

Welcome to 20sIndiaRelationships 💫

Welcome to 20sIndiaRelationships 💫

I’m u/One_Newspaper1309, the founder of this community.

I created this space for people in their 20s in India who are navigating love, dating, heartbreaks, friendships, basically everything that comes with this phase of life. It can be confusing, overwhelming, and sometimes really beautiful, and it helps to not go through it alone.

This is your space. Whether you want advice, share your story, rant, or just read and relate, you belong here 💛

We’re all figuring things out, so let’s keep it respectful, honest, and kind. No judgment, just real conversations.

Let’s start by getting to know each other:
Drop a little intro in the comments:

  • Your age (optional)
  • Where you’re from (optional)
  • Relationship status (single, taken, “it’s complicated” 👀)
  • One thing about relationships you’re struggling with or curious about

No pressure to share everything, just what you’re comfortable with.

Let’s build a space where people actually feel heard and understood 💖

Glad you’re here ✨

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u/One_Newspaper1309 — 7 days ago

To you, who has loved me so much...

The kind of person I am, I won't date myself. I am a terrible human being sometimes. For 10 good things I did, I have done 3 fucked up things everytime. Yet u call me that I am the best, the kindest and best human. U love me, despite me being like this. I would be happy if I can become the hero u believe me to be. Thank you my Pingu for coming in my life. I will not let this distance affect us. I wanna earn asap and get a job near you. I wanna live with you and I can imagine that.

I am 22 and she is 23 (she looks like that penguin in the picture)

u/BhawPaji — 20 hours ago

Suppose

Suppose you're in a relationship, some mishaps happen, one partner didn't change but the other lost their feelings and just stayed in the relationship out of guilt towards the other. Also they are the kindest and sweetest soul you have ever known whom you love towards the moon and back, what would you do in this situation? Would you let them go? Or watch the relationship turn sour over the years but still won't end with them? (Remember you love them wholeheartedly)

(Also flairs me hypothetical questions add krdo🌚 )

u/Epic_kennedy — 1 day ago

Gng is this too much to ask for ?

I really wanna be loved like this . Roasting each other and fighting for fun then playing games together. Uhmm idk someone might find this cringey.I kinda fw this 😼

u/Cold-Coffeee012 — 2 days ago

Anyone faced this??

I wanna know that has it ever happened with y'all that,,,You initially had a crush on someone,,But when you like,,started talking with them,,The romantic feelings for converted into something platonic and like just friendship?Like you felt you're good as friends...

I've faced this irl,,I had a mad crush over a girl,,But when we started talking we became good friends,,and the feelings which I had initially got converted into genuine friendship lmao

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u/Ok-Law-6002 — 2 days ago

Bangalore life is hell if you don't have someone to share your days with

Bangalore aane se pehle laga tha ki bahut saare young log hai idhar and dost banaunga.

BC people don't want to make male friends here. Everyone is looking to find someone for their weekend fun. No one wants to invest time in building bonds (not just relationships).

I'm just broke now 😭😭😭. I hope soon I find someone to spend time with and build a bond of friendship at least.

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u/daburChiku — 2 days ago

DATING SITES ARE FOR GOOD LOOKING PEOPLE ONLY!

This isn’t some rant post about how I didn’t get any match on any dating app and they are the worst, I tried to analyse how this apps actually work and once you get to understand this mechanism you just don’t ever want to go back to it (unless you have no other option of finding your soulmate) By the way to understand and actually look at the stats you can just search up the web and you will find thousands of articles talking about it, from what I found was of tinder where at many market places the number was 75% of males and rest were females (we don’t know whether they were real or just cat fishers) even on bumble there are mostly males and even on any other dating sites because the desperation seeks in after a point of time and they try to finally find their soulmate online, I don’t understand the concept of dating apps at certain point of time, it is just arranged dating just like arrange marriages, both of you know that you guys want to date, it wasn’t friendship or any sort of connections but the point of can we date each other.

When such a huge population gap exists it is tough to find a match for the guys whereas females get a lot of matches as soon as they download these dating apps, once one of my female friend told me about how they just install the apps for few days to get the validation and understand how they still stand in the market and for God sake they get a lot more than they expect, I found it funny back then but it is reality. Girls get so much attention on this app, think about it if you have more than 50 job offers you obviously will select the best one and here comes the rejection part and how many guys don’t get any matches, because girls already have so many options around that they don’t have to keep swiping, they can have actual choices instead of guys who keep of swiping in hope of one proper match. This is where the under confidence of a guy reaches it peak, he feels he is not good enough, he starts doubting himself based on the likes he has received over a dating app, whereas it is just a big surrounded place where finding anything feels difficult. This is where the dating apps start to make their business come to the play, they will give you some match, keep it private until you buy their premium, they will then keep it dry again for few days and you will feel you are not getting matches because you don’t have unlimited likes so you will buy premium and then you will keep swiping and then you might feel its about the account not being boosted so you will pay for that and at the end hopefully get a match but till that time the dating apps have earned enough money they wanted from you, it is like slot machine from casino where you feel you are about to win but lose every time, it’s not co incidence, it’s the master plan to make you stay for long, you just keep getting into the trap.

The reality check hits harder than ever, so few weeks ago I did an experiment to see if this actually works, whether the online dating is actually for the pretty people, is pretty privilege real and the sad truth is it indeed is, the basic fact which we all know is pretty people do get a lot more attention than they crave for but for the online dating scenario I was overwhelmed by the amount of likes I got (not my face) as I attached the screenshot above this was after 30 minutes of liking all the matches back, I didn’t have to swipe anymore, I was getting 50+ likes easily, I thought the population of girls was low and that’s why people don’t get likes but the reality is they are low but as I said when you have so many options you select the best so I got so many likes, randomly my thoughts were intellectual, I was funny and I didn’t even have to text first they were the one making first move, it was scary after a point of time on how many girls were there, I got to understand a pattern, we understand the sex ratio over here but another big problem is girls don’t swipe right to everyone they see so the crowd doesn’t get into the competition, everyone is not getting equal opportunity only the top few are, so to the guys who won’t find their self-worth attached to likes they get on dating apps can get to the app and if you are already less self-confident don’t even try these apps because I didn’t have to take any premium and still got so many likes and matches, the slot machine will always try to attract you to play one more time it is highly necessary for you to stop right there and make the right decision out of it.

Thank you.

 

u/Majestic_Low_9910 — 7 days ago

Kahi me popatlal to nahi?

Like popatlal, I also manifest the love of my life but always end up with disappointment. Not just in love, I put my time and effort into building a bond of friendship but people don't value someone who is putting an effort for them.

I'm so done with this yaar. Why people are like this? Why don't people want to make bonds with others. The bond which we all will need in tough time to tackle the difficulties, in good time to enjoy with.

I am just unlucky I think. Never have I ever been loved by anyone. I can't rant this to parents as well because they will start taking thelis additional tension about me.

Me to tut gaya 😭

u/daburChiku — 2 days ago