My husband had a seizure after 5 years of being seizure free - should we still go ahead and buy or rent?
Hello,
I’m in a bit of a dilemma .. a sticky situation. My husband now 30 has had epilepsy since the age of 16. For 5 years he was seizure free up until last month where he sadly had a tonic clonic/grand mal seizure.
I’ve always worried about whether it would be right for us to buy and how we’d pay the mortgage if his health condition got worse to the point he could not work anymore and I also have to stop working in order to care for him.
Up until last month, we really built up the courage (and that was a lot for me as I am a chronic over thinker) to go ahead and put in an offer to buy a house. However, after the seizure we decided to pull out of the purchase sadly 😔💔 due to the uncertainty around his health.
We’re now considering buying a flat closer to our family who we can lean on for support during seizure emergencies and also eventually for help raising children.
I still find my self staying up until the early hours of the morning going over how we’d pay for the mortgage if his epilepsy got worse. I sometimes think, as a last resort we could always sell the property but then I stress about where that would leave us as a family with potential young children - stressed out and maybe in an even worse situation? Especially if we were to sell and make a loss.
Renting in the London area next to our family (whitechappel, milened, Stepney, bow etc) seems scary too as prices for a 1 bed flat on the private market demand atleast £1700!
We’ve been living with my family for 5 years of our marriage now, trying to save up for a deposit. We now finally have a good deposit amount but keep feeling like all our attempts to buy over the years have been blocked repeatedly! Is this a sign to not buy maybe?
In any case, we really can’t stay with family for much longer and we need to get on with our lives .. maybe think about starting a family in the near future 🙏🏻
I do really feel so heart broken about our situation as we’ve been so patient over the last 5 years .. all our dreams of a home and starting a family still feel so impossible 🥺
Any advice anyone could provide would be so appreciated ❤️