Finally, I understand why it is easier to marry within your class
I am (F) in my mid-late 20s. My spouse is in his early 30s. I did not have a privileged upbringing, but my parents covered all my basic needs; I went through school till uni with their full support, though resources were limited, they managed.
My husband on the other hand, grew up in a rich home. He had more than enough. By the time he was joining uni, his Dad has already bought him his first car😅, when he graduated, it was upgraded. Y’all get the contrasting picture between our upbringing, yeah?
Now fast forward to now when we are married, we really cannot agree on most things financial and it is extremely frustrating. I happen to be more money conscious and save more than him, because I am so used to resources being limited, I just don’t like splurging unnecessarily.
He on the other hand has a taste for the finest things in life 😅. He is always splurging and buying ridiculously expensive things, eg importing designer watches and the like. The worst part is that he is mostly in debt😅 and I noticed he owes a lot of his friends money though he will not come clean about it.
We recently started building a simple home in upcountry and he wants to go for extremely exquisite interior finishes (some of them imported) which in my opinion does not make sense because this is a house we will be sleeping in for at most thrice a year. Why don’t we just use decent but budget friendly finishes?
What bothers me is that both chip in financially to our financial projects and I really feel my money funding his expensive tastes is just waste of my hard earned money.
I feel it could do so much more instead of importing a single 80,000 toilet because “quality”😏
Anyway, I feel I would be so much farther ahead in life I had married someone who grew up the way I did, and sees money the way I see it but here we are😞