I (16F) realized that I strongly dislike words of affirmation as a love language, do you think this will affect future relationships?
Hello, I hope you’re doing well. I, (16f) have never been in a relationship and don’t necessarily want to anytime soon with focusing on school etc. I’ve known for a while that my main love language is physical touch and slightly less so, quality time. However, as the title says, over the course of the last year or so I’ve realized that I actually almost hate words of affirmation in most situations.
For context:
I don’t like giving words of affirmation but I have a much bigger problem with receiving them.
I don’t think I’d mind words that are along the lines of loving or caring about the other person but I hate when most people compliment me more than every once in a while. It’s nice like once in a blue moon but not nearly as regularly as a lot of people are used to giving compliments etc.
I also struggle to give a little bit because I personally know that it would make me a bit uncomfortable. Also, even though I’m being sincere, I feel like it sounds insincere or transactional. I know it isn’t supposed to but when people compliment me it feels like they’re trying to manipulate me. That’s the main problem. The other is that if I think it’s genuine it makes me feel extremely guilty most of the time. Idk why. Like if someone were to say I was a kind person, it would just make me think of everything I did in recent history that I wouldn’t consider kind.
On top of that, I also dislike about 9/10 stereotypical nicknames for partners… id have a hard time referring to someone as most of these and an even harder time being referred to as them. Idk why. I like more personal ones tho.
Is there anyone else who feels like this and if so has it affected your relationships deeply?