My friend is pissed at me for not staying with him, but I didn’t want to be a burden😭
I’m 26f & i became homeless about a month ago. I have 2 jobs and am in school, it just happened after a few car repairs, my rent being raised and a bad streak of luck. I got sick and was in the hospital for a few weeks right before my rent was raised and things just came tumbling after that, I was renting with air bnb but needed to save up to get approved for a new place, so I made a little bed in my car and started showering at the gym.
I didn’t tell anyone, I don’t really have anyone anyway. Only family is my dad and he lives far away.
He works with me at a restaurant, and has been vocal about having a crush on me but because I’ve been going through it I’ve always said no.
He found out I was homeless and wanted me to stay with him, I said no thank you. Although it was sweet, he has a bachelor apartment and I couldn’t do it. He already has zero space, and I couldn’t bring myself to be a burden on anyone. I would never ever ask anyone for help, even if I just needed 10$, I would never ask anyone I would always find a way to make it.
I have a regular customer I’ve become friends with, he is in his 40s, single and owns quite a large house with tons of space and extra bedrooms. Before anyone gets nervous he’s safe lol, really good friend to me and known him 3.5 years now.
He also found out I was homeless, and offered me a room. I turned him down at first but he said he was pretty lonely anyways and would love to have me.. so I offered rent but he wouldn’t accept it so we just decided I would do his grocery shopping/cook when I can since he pays people to do that stuff anyways.
So in this scenario I don’t feel as much like a burden, I still feel guilty and I’m saving like crazy to make sure I can find a place asap because I don’t want him to think he’s stuck with me.
But I’m sleeping in his guest bedroom, have my own bathroom. I don’t feel in the way at all. We’re having fun together, all is good.
Anyways my friend 26m who I work with screamed at me, like fully screamed at me when he found out. Said he was willing to offer me space he didn’t have, but I chose someone with more money over him. Said his apartment wasn’t good enough even when I was homeless.
I never ever wanted to hurt him, and it was never like that 😭 I’ve just been crying all night, I did not want to be in his way. He was extremely sweet for the offer but even if I paid rent I would feel awful.
We work similar shifts too, so he would be stuck with me in his apartment all the time. There’s only one room, moving my stuff in would be annoying enough for him. I really just couldn’t do it, but it wasn’t about me. If I was only thinking about myself I would have said yes in a heartbeat.
I just feel so bad, I called him and left a message explaining it all but he didn’t call back or text. I see what he was saying, but he had it all wrong. & when he offered for me to move into his place for a bit, I didn’t even have the offer from my other friend yet… I didn’t pick one over the other.