I've read these posts for quite some time and learned a lot about how to be the best supportive partner I could. Well...it finally happened and honestly I'm not sure how to feel right now. We both were previously married and had been together for 4 and a half years. The most destabilizing part to me has been the last two years - hearing that I wasn't a good partner, I wasn't showing up, I was avoidant or inconsistent. After some time I started to believe it and the guilt got so heavy. In the last 6 months or so she was put on medication for ADHD and her best friend became chatgpt. I don't know what it was but the echo chamber of the AI always agreeing and the the responses that I would get from her that were obviously written by it. When I'd try to talk about how the connection felt so distant, that too became my fault.
Part of me feels relieved, but also sad and lost. I'm not really asking any questions, just sharing.