My wife and I have been trying to make our marriage work for several years now, but I've realised recently we're beating a dead horse at this point - things have gone from bad to toxic to borderline emotionally abusive, and there's no fixing it.
Our son can't walk or talk, and we have adapted our home significantly, plus is nearby to access a lot of vital resources.
I run my own accounting firm and have supported the 3 of us since he was born, but he's still way too much for a single parent (not necessarily at any one time, but the overall demands are way too high). I'm committed to being there for him regardless, this is purely about the marriage and not me trying to run away (am aware of the optics of a dad leaving a mother with a disabled kid, believe me).
If one of us moved out they'd have to stay local, and there are medical appointments and surgeries in the future where we'd both need to be there. Although I work full time, I still want as much time with him as possible. I can't see a situation where he moves or has to bounce between two houses being workable, so I think "nesting" is our best bet for the short-mid term (he stays put and we alternate between the family home and another shared location)
Has anyone here been through a divorce with a disabled kid? Or tried / seen nesting work? Honestly I have zero intention of dating / finding someone else, but obviously can't speak for my wife and I can see problems with it arising in the longer term.