u/svtvn_babii

When I (28F) was barely 15 years old I was groomed, manipulated, kept away & isolated from from family, and pregnant by a 20 year old man. He was physically and mentally abusive, just a horrible person over all.

He ended up going to prison for unrelated charges when our son was 8 months old. He was released Nov 2024. I am now 28. I had no contact with him his entire sentencing. 2025 December he took me to court for 50/50 custody.

We do not know this man. Our life went on when this abusive man was removed from our lives by the grace of god. These past few months really showed me how unhealed I was from the trauma he inflicted on me.

Being in the same room as this man made me feel something in my chest that quite literally froze my train of thought, removed the ability for me to standup for my self, to speak my peace, to speak in general.

The power dynamic this man had on me was still very present in that court room & due to triggers releasing the raw emotion I haven’t faced or acknowledged since I was a kid, the judge immediately gave the impression that he didn’t have time for whatever it was I had to bring to the table on my behalf.

I was rushed, I was cut short. I was humiliated the second my voice cracked while trying to build that courage to speak in general, the judge rolled his eyes while tossing himself back into his chair to make it clear he was bored and annoyed.

I was denied a Victims advocate because they only deal with abused women cases that involve relationship and DV. They do not help with custody battles apparently ? 🫩 I never been to court in my life. I have no family no support to guide me in any direction.. Google Gemini has been my only helping hand through out this & honestly I’m feeling so defeated and discouraged.

I had proof printed out and a very straight forward but also reasonable statement typed out and everyone I told said there’s no way he can get anything out of this.

But he did. My son is forced to be alone with an abusive pedofile that only wanted him so he didn’t get charged by child support since he just started working (I am on foodstamps)

Sorry for such a long read. Thankyou to anyone who pulled thru the whole thing I’m so stressed overwhelmed and hurt this is even something we’re having to go thru at this time in our life. Any advice will be greatly appreciated!!

Location: I’m in California

When I (28F) was barely 15 years old I was groomed, manipulated, kept away & isolated from from family, and pregnant by a 20 year old man. He was physically and mentally abusive, just a horrible person over all.

He ended up going to prison for unrelated charges when our son was 8 months old. He was released Nov 2024. I am now 28. I had no contact with him his entire sentencing. 2025 December he took me to court for 50/50 custody.

We do not know this man. Our life went on when this abusive man was removed from our lives by the grace of god. These past few months really showed me how unhealed I was from the trauma he inflicted on me.

Being in the same room as this man made me feel something in my chest that quite literally froze my train of thought, removed the ability for me to standup for my self, to speak my peace, to speak in general.

The power dynamic this man had on me was still very present in that court room & due to triggers releasing the raw emotion I haven’t faced or acknowledged since I was a kid, the judge immediately gave the impression that he didn’t have time for whatever it was I had to bring to the table on my behalf.

I was rushed, I was cut short. I was humiliated the second my voice cracked while trying to build that courage to speak in general, the judge rolled his eyes while tossing himself back into his chair to make it clear he was bored and annoyed.

I was denied a Victims advocate because they only deal with abused women cases that involve relationship and DV. They do not help with custody battles apparently ? 🫩 I never been to court in my life. I have no family no support to guide me in any direction.. Google Gemini has been my only helping hand through out this & honestly I’m feeling so defeated and discouraged.

I had proof printed out and a very straight forward but also reasonable statement typed out and everyone I told said there’s no way he can get anything out of this.

But he did. My son is forced to be alone with an abusive pedofile that only wanted him so he didn’t get charged by child support since he just started working (I am on foodstamps)

Sorry for such a long read. Thankyou to anyone who pulled thru the whole thing I’m so stressed overwhelmed and hurt this is even something we’re having to go thru at this time in our life. Any advice will be greatly appreciated!!