Should I tell my friend to stop making triggering comments?
So I’m currently in recovery from disordered eating/an eating disorder and my therapist and dietitian both want me to set boundaries with my roommate/friend who makes triggering comments. It seems like every time I’m around food or eating with her she’ll say (some examples) idk why I’ve been eating so terrible lately (literally eating a Mac n cheese cup) or like omg I have so much food in the fridge I’m feeling gluttonous (when she literally has a normal amount). My team thinks that she has her own struggles with food, but I live with her and shes told me that she’s lucky to have never really struggled with food when I very inadvertently alluded to struggling. It triggers me because she always makes comments about how she hasn’t eaten all day too. I try and tell myself that I know she just eats bigger and more filling meals out and whatnot whereas I mainly snack and eat smaller meals at home. I am also very active and am a ballet dancer so I know our energy needs differ however my stupid ED says I’m not valid if I eat more than her.
I want to tell her to stop making these kinds of comments like my team has told me to do but I was talking to her about losing my period a bit ago and she said well I don’t think it’s because of food because I see you eat all the time (once again the snacking, I had the calorie counting issue so I know it’s because of food) but it just obviously stuck with me and made me feel super invalid. It also makes me think that she won’t believe me if I tell her what I’ve been going through.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated, I do love her a lot but I’m trying to better myself and find myself getting very irritated and almost not wanting to eat in front of her because of it.