I have a friend whom i know very well. I’ve known her since like 3rd grade and we’ve always been really close friends, but about a week ago she told me she is bisexual… She says that she is bisexual but she also says she is more attracted to women than she is to men (she has had past boyfriends). She is a teenager and we are the same age. She is not a baptized Catholic, but she says that she believes in God, although her relationship with God over the past few months has been “on and off”. She knows that dating another girl or romanticizing the thought is sinful, and she knows that it breaks God’s heart. However, she said that the temptation is sometimes too strong. She is very shy, and when she has a crush on a girl, she always acts like she hates the girl or doesn’t want to talk to them. She is wondering if she should start to approach girls more often because normally, when she has a crush on someone, she just thinks about them a lot and pictures what could become of them, but never acts on it and accepts the fact that the other girl is straight (although they might not be straight), and essentially breaks her own heart. She wants to start being more open and talking to other girls, but she is also not super certain if she should because this is not approved of in the eyes of God. Her relationship with God is weird. Sometimes she feels like she is losing faith and doesn’t pray but then she feels like she has to have faith because faith = perseverance which = a good relationship with God and hopefully a better life, at least according to her. Ultimately, she hates being gay and doesn’t really know what to do. Any suggestions? I know this is a hasty message and I apologize if my grammar and syntax is off but I care a lot about my friend and I hate to see her unhappy because of her natural desires and belief systems.
Sorry, i forgot to add one thing. this is what she said to me last night, “Honestly, I just use the whole God doesn’t allow gay marriage or fantasizing about another person as an excuse to not approach girls. I am terrified of approaching another girl, not like normally, but i am terrified if I have a crush on them. Lowkey I just say that I won’t talk to another girl because of the whole God says not to thing as a way to make myself seem righteous. I totally hate this part of myself, and that makes me feel a little bit better to lessen the pain. I don’t really know why God made me this way. Every time I go back to him in prayer and say I’m sorry for fantasizing about a girl I just try to feel his love and think that it’s enough for me, but like deep down I don’t really believe that. I don’t know how I can live my entire life like this.” I want to be a good friend and help her and she trusts me a lot and wants my help, but i honestly dunno what to say.