Advice needed: Is it time for school? Dealing with my 3yo and her newborn sister
Hi everyone! I’m a mom of two and I’m reaching out for some advice on my 3-year-old daughter.
Lately, she’s been very "spirited" or what we call a "dragonesa" at home. She has a younger sister (8months old), and honestly, it’s been a challenge. Ate has a tendency to be a bit aggressive, bigla na lang uungot si baby kasi kinurot na pala ni Ate nang patago, or minsan sinasabunutan or sinasapok niya pag hindi kami nakatingin.
Even in public, hindi ko matansya.
Her Papa is the disciplinarian, and I try to be the balancer, pero pakiramdam ko need nya ng more structured environment to help her learn boundaries and empathy. We’re considering enrolling her in school to help her "mellow out" and learn how to interact with other kids properly kasi nangangaway sya ng mga bata.
Kahit nasasaktan akong napapalo sya ng papa nya sa inuugali nya, pero kasi di talga sya nakikinig unless mag labas si papa ya ng tsinelas. After naman mapalo, mag sosorry Papa, sorry Mama, sorry baby. Pero after an hour or two, ganun na ulit.
Our options:
- Montessori / Progressive
- Private School: I’m hoping a smaller, supervised class might help her pick up "mahinhin" habits from her peers.
- Barangay Day Care: This is very accessible, but I’m worried if a bigger group might make it harder to monitor her behavior with other kids
My goal: I want to find a place where she can be guided gently. I want her to learn how to be a "gentle ate" and how to respect other people's space/things.
- Has anyone else had a "wild child" who became calmer after starting school?
- Which school setting is best for a child who struggles with sharing and sibling jealousy?
- Any tips on how to handle this stage? Im a wfh mom -nightshift, si papa nila is working naman in the morning. Sumasakit na ang ulo ko, minsan gusto ko na lang iuuntog ulo ko kasi di ko na kaya.
Salamat po sa mga sasagot! 🌸