u/salimotantey

You don't need nobody unless it's somebody

I was scrolling through Instagram and I found a post that says "a guy who craves multiple women at once is not content with himself." And that was very good, and I really went deep in my consciousness. And I started thinking of each time I was talking to multiple women, or when a person I know who talked dating different women at once.

I am thinking that it has never been a truer statement;

A guy who is not content with himself and is having a very low self-esteem, or is just living up to his expectations, or who truly meant to be.

He is looking for validation from the outside. He is looking for recognition and compensation on the fact that he is good enough, he is worthy of "love" enough.

This idea has been haunting me for weeks now. I've talked in previous posts on how I was self-critical, and I thought of being very aware of the fact that I was seeking attention from the outside world. And me realizing it's not sexual attraction. It's not sexual deprivation . I am seeking validation from the outside instead of from the inside. I want people to recognize how good I am because I know I'm not living up to my potential. I know I am falling short each time in every metric.

So the couple of weeks now, I am working on myself to not just live up to who I know I can be, but also be grateful and be content of who I am now.

Be grateful for the small things, and be thankful for what you already have and what I already have.

And I've been seeing the press release take place again and again in each and every day. The acts that way.

I am right now in the military service and each time somebody asks me to go on a "AZAR to get the chicks " or download a dating app when I know they already have somebody, when I know these people have somebody at home waiting for them. They are not cheating because they are sexually deprived, they are not cheating because they are emotionally deprived, they are cheating because they fear some kind of discontent of who they are. They are not proud of their situation. They are looking for an outside validation. Somebody who will tell them we appreciate you, somebody who will fall in love with them even. They don't care about that person, they care about the feeling that comes from the person.

And this is a wake-up call for you too, who is reading this. Don't date for social and emotional validation. Love yourself, look inward , work for you to become that best version. Then you will eventually quickly realize you don't need to be dating nobody unless it is SOMEBODY .

I was scrolling through Instagram and I found a post that says "a guy who craves multiple women at once is not content with himself." And that was very good, and I really went deep in my consciousness. And I started thinking of each time I was talking to multiple women, or when a person I know who talked dating different women at once.

I am thinking that it has never been a truer statement;

A guy who is not content with himself and is having a very low self-esteem, or is just living up to his expectations, or who truly meant to be.

He is looking for validation from the outside. He is looking for recognition and compensation on the fact that he is good enough, he is worthy of "love" enough.

This idea has been haunting me for weeks now. I've talked in previous posts on how I was self-critical, and I thought of being very aware of the fact that I was seeking attention from the outside world. And me realizing it's not sexual attraction. It's not sexual deprivation . I am seeking validation from the outside instead of from the inside. I want people to recognize how good I am because I know I'm not living up to my potential. I know I am falling short each time in every metric.

So the couple of weeks now, I am working on myself to not just live up to who I know I can be, but also be grateful and be content of who I am now.

Be grateful for the small things, and be thankful for what you already have and what I already have.

I am right now in the military service and each time somebody asks me to go on a "AZAR to get the chicks " or download a dating app when I know they already have somebody, when I know these people have somebody at home waiting for them. They are not cheating because they are sexually deprived, they are not cheating because they are emotionally deprived, they are cheating because they fear some kind of discontent of who they are. They are not proud of their situation. They are looking for an outside validation. Somebody who will tell them we appreciate you, somebody who will fall in love with them even. They don't care about that person, they care about the feeling that comes from the person.

And this is a wake-up call for you too, who is reading this. Don't date for social and emotional validation. Love yourself, look inward , work for you to become that best version. Then you will eventually quickly realize you don't need to be dating nobody unless it is SOMEBODY .

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So, it's been a long time and I didn't post anything on Reddit. And I think my last post was on this sub and explained how I'm right now in the military service, and as expected, I'm going through challenges every single day. I am here today to share some of it with you the latest thoughts and psychological challenges I have in mind.

Since my first week I was given a role of leadership based on my academic level and my outgoing personality (maybe even soft skills played a role). So since September, I was basically responsible for 400 people. Not in the way that I am authoritarian over them, but in a way that I have to pass down orders from sergeants to privates it's called "eleve de groupement".

My role varies from having them to execute orders, sometimes call them for deformations, sometimes counting them in formations, most likely having the situation ready on papers in which and where is everybody, I mean the 400 privates.

I'm not gonna lie, it is very demanding, energy draining, and stressful, to say the least. And the worst part about it is you don't get no type of recognition or like, yeah, you're doing a good job, or yeah, you might be, like, you're doing a great job for somebody who has never been through military service, and it is kind of overwhelming and difficult to stay focused in an environment full of And now, eight months later...screaming noises, physical punishment, mental punishment getting cursed at every moment sometimes for no reason sometimes for a reason and sometimes even by doing a great job.

And I did enjoy it at first, I came in motivated to work on my leadership skills my stress management skills even as I said in previous posts learning how to deal with anger and rage. Because here everything will cost you ALOT . You can get punished for absolutely nothing or very small things like star too much as a sergeant or an officer, moving your legs if not asked speaking if not asked Walkin from point A to B without permission and without the formal way.

And I loved that I needed the discipline back in my life...

Fast forward now eight months later, I've pretty much master what I came to learn here . But this is a thing that bothered me so much lately and maybe it's gonna be my steak is too juicy my lobster is so buttery situation, but I found myself DMing (yes I sneaked in my iphone and yes i can go to jail for that ) girls all over social media trying to win them all... and I thought it was a normal situation where it's been a long time I've seen a woman and it's just the sexual urge so I went along with it because it is true , the sexual urge you will get here is extremely up to levels you can't even imagine.

But after having a permission to go out for 10 days (usually given in Eid) to make sure I don't worry about it anymore, I catched myself doing it again multiple times when I don't feel any sexual attention towards those women... and it started to bother me... WHY I AM TEXTING ALL THESE STRANGERS???

WHAT DO I NEED MULTIPLE PEOPLE FOR?

I am a self critical guy by nature and I don't go to sleep until I rewind what I did that day try to make sense of why I did it.

SO WE HIT ME!!!

I AM SEEKING ATTENTION FROM THESE PEOPLE. I AM SEEKING VALIDATION FROM THESE PEOPLE.

I don't like them. I mean, not in a way that I want to date them or have my way to them. I am just a little boy who is given way too much tasks and never given compliments about it. I am somebody who's doing a lot but very recognition and the kid is looking for a self-esteem boost I mean, can you believe me?

Doing extreme hard tasks physically and mentally and on top of that being a leader responsible without having your emotions involved, keeping your temper professional and military formal trying to put your ego aside when getting yelled at every single time by a superior officer even after doing things perfectly , managing that was something very difficult so insecure kids who wanted to get jacked to become a leader and prove he is something.

For a week now, I am between the dilemma of keeping it the way it is. I'm not hurting nobody I am not offending nobody it's just a DM and it's not that deep. I'm just so much in my head.

On the other hand, I need to have my own self-esteem. I don't need it to be booted by nobody. How weak of me is to look for validation outside of my brain outside of my consciousness, there's nobody that can help me but me there's nobody who can save me but me.

Let me know what do you think? What should I do? Am I too hard on myself or should I work on myself more?

So, it's been a long time and I didn't post anything on Reddit. And I think my last post was on this sub and explained how I'm right now in the military service, and as expected, I'm going through challenges every single day. I am here today to share some of it with you the latest thoughts and psychological challenges I have in mind.

Since first week I was given a role of leadership based on my academic level and my outgoing personality (maybe even soft skills played a role). So since September, I was basically responsible for 400 people. Not in the way that I am authoritarian over them, but in a way that I have to pass down orders from sergeants to privates it's called "eleve de groupement".

My role varies from having them to execute orders, sometimes call them for deformations, sometimes counting them in formations, most likely having the situation ready on papers in which and where is everybody, I mean the 400 privates.

I'm not gonna lie, it is very demanding, energy draining, and stressful, to say the least. And the worst part about it is you don't get no type of recognition or like, yeah, you're doing a good job, or yeah, you might be, like, you're doing a great job for somebody who has never been through military service, and it is kind of overwhelming and difficult to stay focused in an environment full of And now, eight months later...screaming noises, physical punishment, mental punishment getting cursed at every moment sometimes for no reason sometimes for a reason and sometimes even by doing a great job.

And I did enjoy it at first, I came in motivated to work on my leadership skills my stress management skills even as I said in previous posts learning how to deal with anger and rage. Because here everything will cost you ALOT . You can get punished for absolutely nothing or very small things like star too much as a sergeant or an officer, moving your legs if not asked speaking if not asked Walkin from point A to B without permission and without the formal way.

And I loved that I needed the discipline back in my life...

Fast forward now eight months later, I've pretty much master what I came to learn here . But this is a thing that bothered me so much lately and maybe it's gonna be my steak is too juicy my lobster is so buttery situation, but I found myself DMing (yes I sneaked in my iphone and yes i can go to jail for that ) girls all over social media trying to win them all... and I thought it was a normal situation where it's been a long time I've seen a woman and it's just the sexual urge so I went along with it because it is true , the sexual urge you will get here is extremely up to levels you can't even imagine.

But after having a permission to go out for 10 days (usually given in Eid) to make sure I don't worry about it anymore, I catched myself doing it again multiple times when I don't feel any sexual attention towards those women... and it started to bother me... WHY I AM TEXTING ALL THESE STRANGERS???

WHAT DO I NEED MULTIPLE PEOPLE FOR?

I am a self critical guy by nature and I don't go to sleep until I rewind what I did that day try to make sense of why I did it.

SO IT HIT ME!!!

I AM SEEKING ATTENTION FROM THESE PEOPLE.

I AM SEEKING VALIDATION FROM THESE PEOPLE.

I don't like them. I mean, not in a way that I want to date them or have my way to them. I am just a little boy who is given way too much tasks and never given compliments about it. I am somebody who's doing a lot but no recognition and the kid in me is looking for a self-esteem boost I mean, can you blame him?

Doing extreme hard tasks physically and mentally and on top of that being a leader responsible without having your emotions involved, keeping your temper professional and military formal trying to put your ego aside when getting yelled at every single time by a superior officer even after doing things perfectly , managing that was something very difficult so insecure kids who wanted to get jacked to become a leader and prove he is something.

For a week now, I am between the dilemma of keeping it the way it is. I'm not hurting nobody I am not offending nobody it's just a DM and it's not that deep. I'm just so much in my head.

On the other hand, I need to have my own self-esteem. I don't need it to be booted by nobody. How weak of me is to look for validation outside of my brain outside of my consciousness, there's nobody that can help me but me there's nobody who can save me but me.

Let me know what do you think? What should I do? Am I too hard on myself or should I work on myself more?