u/s1nenomine

several people have mentioned losing weight and then losing their pants/skirts in public. did your pants ever try to abandon you? I want to hear about it!

my story: about sixty pounds into losing, i went to a new stylist to have my hair colored. i was wearing this cute black skirt (it had been short, but at this point it reached almost to my knees) and as i walked up to the salon, i clutched my waistband because it felt loose.

the appointment went fine (the colors were gorgeous) and afterward i went to pay at the front desk. while trying to get out my credit card, i let go of the waistband and it was suddenly at my knees!

fortunately, my top was also way too big and hid anything controversial, but it was a bit awkward trying to nonchalantly pull my skirt back up. the next day, i bought a new skirt.

what's your traveling pants moment?

my surgery was scheduled for may 26, but a couple of days ago they asked if i would be okay with moving it up to the 12th. that's four days from now. the last few days have been a whirlwind of pre-op appointments (many of them on the phone, thank god) and blood draws.

i haven't had a lot of time to prepare, but i do have a list of things i'll need afterward. most of it i ordered last night. here's what's on the list so far:

* folding walker and skis for it

* rigid folding bag that straps to front of walker

* tray that straps to top of walker to act as a table

* "hip replacement kit" with a grabber, a sock thing, an almost comically long shoehorn, a dressing stick, a loofah on a long wooden handle, a telescoping scratcher, and a leg lifter

* two more grabbers just in case

* raised toilet seat that's on a frame with legs on either side of the toilet. it also has a bucket if you need a bedside commode (which i probably won't, but multitaskers are good on general principle)

* two large freezer ice packs designed to strap on your hip (20 minutes on, 20 off means each one has 40 minutes to get cold again)

what am i missing?

what do i need to know that the surgeon's office might not have mentioned?

they said i might have to stay overnight - how likely is it? they said once i demonstrate that i can walk and climb stairs, i can leave. i'm planning to pack a bag and my travel cpap, then leave it in the car until we know if i'm starting over.

how can i help my husband help me and support him in it?

thank you in advance for any advice. i'm a little freaked out. i hadn't started planning for after surgery yet and suddenly it's almost here.

i weighed 332. i now weigh 166 - half of that. i have lost a whole person and then some, and it is totally blowing my mind. i still think i'm fat, but my husband disagrees.

no one prepares you for the various flavors of body dysmorphia, but i remind myself that someday i will feel at home in my body again.