New to this
I just joined Reddit, looking to connect with others that share a similar experience.
I’m a 50+ male and my wife is stage IV. It’s been over two years since diagnosis. It’s been a very challenging two years. She has spent months at a time in the hospital and her physical abilities are greatly diminished. She is still mentally there but for from the woman I married. She has constant pain, severe depression and hasn’t even driven a car since being diagnosed.
The first year seemed more like high tension emergency response. Only thoughts were about getting her better. Now life has settled into a purely caregiver/patient life. I find I’m never alone but always lonely now. It’s work, take care of her. That’s life now. I read some of these threads and it’s good to know I’m not just an a-hole for wanting something more than I have right now. That wanting intimacy and connection is normal.
What I don’t understand with some of the talk is how do you even find something else? I already feel like my life is stretched about as far as it can go, adding another relationship on top seems exhausting.
Mostly I’m here just to vent. The person I used to do that with doesn’t need me to tell them how much all this sucks right now, they know and we both know we can’t do anything about it.