I've been thinking about this a lot lately.
In my experience growing up in an Indian immigrant household, apologies from adults to us kids were essentially nonexistent. Not because they were bad people but I think they didn't feel safe admitting fault because of how they were treated when they made mistakes as kids. Also, I think they believed that to be respected you had to be fault free. I noticed that many times when they made an undeniable mistake they would often pin it on us with something like "you distracted me" or "the tv is so loud."
What I've noticed in myself, and in people I've talked to who grew up similarly, is that this creates a weird relationship with being wrong. Making a mistake feels like you're a bad person instead of a normal part of being human.
So for the longest time, I fought hard to avoid owning up to a mistake because the very idea of it made me just so anxious. I would either avoid situations where I might fail, or I became someone who can't admit fault because the shame of it is just too much to sit with.
I've been reflecting on this more recently through conversations with people in my own life who are working through similar patterns, and it got me genuinely curious about how widespread this actually is.
Have any of you experienced this?