What is inpatient alcohol rehab actually like?
My (soon to be ex) husband is currently in a drug and alcohol program 5 hours away. He had a drunken tirade and I had to call the police and leave with our children (7mo and 2.5 years). I filed for divorce 5 days later and a week after that he decided he was going to an inpatient detox program. It was supposed to be for 3 weeks but now he says he is going to go to a sober living house to continue treatment.
We were together for 13 years. He was my best friend. As I’m sitting here with my heart breaking, unable to even process all the grief I feel for the life we wanted to build together—because bottles still need to be washed, snacks still need to be made, and I’m trying desperately to maintain a sense of normalcy for my toddler—I keep wondering what he is doing right now.
He isn’t allowed his phone. He can make 1 10 minute phone call per night so I have only spoken to him twice in the past 2 weeks.
Is it like jail? But with more groups and therapy? Did he meet someone? Has he slept with her? The kids are in bed and I’m sitting outside looking at the stars and thinking about him. What’s he doing right now? I don’t know when he will be home. Our baby has learned to crawl since he’s been gone. In his short little life, dad has already been gone for an eternity. Will he even remember him?
I want my husband to get better. I want him to heal. I don’t want our children to grow up with the unfillable hole having an addicted parent leaves inside of you (my dad was also an alcoholic). I just wish I knew what he was doing right now.