Super creepy date while abroad in Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan.
Tldr at bottom. Resubmitted due to not having enough paragraphs.
I'm visiting Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan. As I was having trouble finding my Airbnb, I ran into a Russian girl coming from the same apartment who lived in a unit above me. I asked her for help and she got me in to the building and was very pleasant.
She then states that she lives there and if I have any questions about the neighborhood to what's app her. My host confirms she does live there. I think okay, cool. We exchanged numbers and then she texts me a bit later saying by the way, you are quite cute, wanna go to dinner? Honestly, the spontaneous idea was interesting to me, so I said yes, why not.
You only live once. I just thought it'd be cool to meet a local, practice my Russian (everyone in Kyrgyzstan speaks russian or Kyrgyz) and just hang out. I did find her cute as well.
We meet at a restaurant and everything is fine for awhile, but then she starts doing this weird stare, like staring deeply into my eyes and commenting on the colour and how perfect they are. She then starts doing the same for my nose. Super weird. She asks me if I used drugs to dilate my eyes and change their colour. I say no. We then go back to standard stuff that isn't weird at all like hobbies, interests, work, travel, etc.,
Then, she goes on a long tangent about her obsession with wanting plastic surgery for a more perfect face (didn't notice she had minor cosmetics until she pointed it out), but she literally went on and on about wanting a perfect face, then repeatedly asks me if I got a nose job, to which I keep saying no. She kept getting right up close to my face to look at my nose, eye, or ears. She states that I look like an ideal Russian man (I am not, just American with Irish/English/German roots) and keeps commenting on weird body parts.
She also wanted to watch me eat and didn't order any food, only drinks. She just sort of stares at me the whole time.
She then tells me this super sketchy story about how there used to be prostitutes living in the apartment building, but they were evicted recently.
Other weird observations. She pulls out not just a second phone, but even a third phone. I ask her why, and she says it's common in this country due to how bad service is. Pretty weird. I noticed also that she repeatedly uses hand sanitizer or goes to wash her hands. Over and over again. She mentioned a few times, "please don't be scared of me" while staring at me deadpan.
She also told me some weird story about how she is in nursing school and that her current professor keeps having hallucinations and how it's freaking her out. I figured this was likely a language barrier issue, so I confirmed with Google translate and yes, this is correct. Just such a weird off topic thing to mention. Then some random story about a crazy ex who pulled a knife on her one time and "wanted to cut her open."
She later does order something after I finish eating, so I awkwardly now sit there waiting for her to finish.
I say I'm ready to go and figure she is probably hoping to just get a free dinner from a foreigner, but interestingly she offers to pay. She had to make stops to wash her hands many times and kept insisting on spraying sanitizer on my hands and stuff. We then walk back to the building and parted ways.
She then texts me a bunch of weird photos. At first, strange, grainy photos of her legs dangling at the gym or herself putting on lipstick and staring dead pan into the camera with a glazed over look. Random pictures of her hair styling, and I mean a ton of them. Some mildly sexy, but not overtly like sexting. Several of them have extremely creepy lighting, like super dark and surreal looking as if from a David Lynch film.
The really creepy ones were a bunch of close up photos of one eye, like completely zoomed in and just labeled "мой глаз." They had no context and she just kept sending them all night.
She states how she loved meeting me and wanted to meet the next day for a museum. I said I have a lot booked, so maybe not. I said nice to meet you in Russian, but did not comment on the photos. She sends me a bunch of other messages and starts repeatedly calling me.
I tell her firmly I am not interested and would like to stop communicating, but she continues to call, send weird texts, and endless creepy photos of her eye or just staring into the camera deadpan.
I booked a hotel and got the hell out of that Airbnb.
What am I dealing with here? I feel like this is just a really mentally unwell person: the OCD like behaviour, preoccupation almost with body dysmorphia, and weird mannerisms and photos not making much sense.
However, the three phones and whole story about the prostitutes really sketches me out. I started thinking maybe she is trying to solicit sex? But then, she never asked or really made any major advances and if she is that obsessed with hand washing, I doubt it? A scammer maybe, but then she offered to buy dinner and didn't ask for anything? I just get a major off and creepy feeling from the entire thing.
I do hope she can find help and just feel pretty sad about the whole thing.
Tldr: Met a Russian woman at my Bishkek Airbnb building, she asked me to dinner. The date was filled with red flags: intense staring at my face/body parts, wanting to watch me eat, obsessive plastic surgery talk, repeated hand-washing, three phones, random stories about prostitutes/a knife-wielding ex/a hallucinating professor, and unprompted "please don't be scared of me." Afterward she sent weird random photos of her eye and pushed to meet again. Not sure if she's mentally unwell, a scammer, or something else — but I'm creeped out and relieved I left that Airbnb behind.