Please help me learn how to become a functional adult with a tidy home!
I am 25F married 26M, he works a busy office job where he needs to wear ironed shirts and tidy suits to work, while I’m a stay at home wife. Growing up, my parents never really taught me anything to focus on my studies. At one point in my life I’ve lived in a studio apartment alone, but that home was (sucks to admit) very dirty and messy. But, still, I somewhat learned the basics of how to do “things” , I still haven’t learned how to keep a schedule and be on top of them. My husband has grown up in a really cultural family, where men didn’t do anything and didn’t have responsibilities at home. He didn’t do anything to this point, he tries but I kind of understand him not doing much cause he already works alot and comes home tired, so I think I should be doing the majority of the housework.
My problem is, I don’t know how to keep things going. Every two weeks I do shit ton of laundry, folding and ironing, and get the clothes done, then I get too comfortable and leave it for another week or two. I never regularly vaccuum the house. Only thing I can keep up is the kitchen because I really love cooking and cleaning the countertops. Other than that everything feels like a burden to me. I hate doing things. But I know this is not the way I wanna live anymore cause this is not sustainable and kind of damaging my relationship.