How will an ex be feeling when I don't wish him for his birthday after being together for so many years?
I am a person with Codependency.
I know calling someone toxic might not be the best, but this is the only way I can describe my ex-partner with whom I was with for 10 years.
For the past 10 years, every year I would do things for his birthday to make him happy. Get him gifts, write him card, bring him to where he likes and spend time with him. Maybe the first few years he appreciated it, then he started to take it for granted. He would not reciprocate. He would not do anything for my birthday. But every year I would go even more out of my way to try to make him happy, even though he was not reciprocating or even appreciating it. So we were together for 10 years and eventually as usual he didn't show up for me and I tried to hold him accountable for the very first time. He ghosted me for 3 months and I never reached out during those 3 months.
After that, he reached out to me multiple times after the 3 months of ghosting me but I completely ignored him. Ghosting someone for 3 months is considered a break up already. He messaged me a week ago saying "hello, are you there?". I didn't respond.
Today was his birthday. I didn't wish him because as I want to move away completely. I want to heal and move on with my life.
As a person who is healing from the 10 years of baggage from the relationship, I just have this curiosity. I know he would definitely have been expecting me to at least text him and wish him for his birthday because him impression of me is I'm someone who's very forgiving, empathetic, and would not completely just write him off. I am just curious to know, how would he actually be feeling or what would he be thinking? I know my focus should to heal on myself and that's what I have been doing for the past 4 months. This is the first birthday of his ever since we split. So this was something I was wondering.
Any of you who have been someone who was toxic and has healed now and has become better, or anyone who have had similar experience of encountering toxic people, do share. Thanks!