u/motxillera

I’m on vacation with my boyfriend and with my LO and his girlfriend (who is also a friend of mine). It’s horribly complicated and I made a complete mess of things, because my LO and I had a situationship, but he pulled back over the last few months. I have been feeling hurt, rejected and absolutely awful, and he doesn’t understand me or validate my feelings.

She obviously has the official role as his girlfriend, and I constantly see them together here as a couple, while he also used to give me that same love and attention. And I’ve put my marriage at risk because of all this. On top of that, I’m around my LO all the time on this trip, which is honestly torture. Canceling the vacation wasn’t really an option, but we’ve made things so incredibly difficult for ourselves.

I’m sitting here with a hundred different emotions, and after this vacation I really want to try to create distance from him (again). The problem is that I still work with him one day a week. I've been working on creating distance from him but since this holiday was planned it felt better to truly try once we're back home.

And honestly, I feel like a terrible spouse. I need to save my marriage.

If anyone has any mental support or advice on how to deal with LO, this holiday or how to handle/start the low contact, I’d really appreciate it. I really want to make my marriage and husband top priority.

I just hope you won’t judge me too harshly, I already know how badly I’ve handled this.

(I see most posts here are from long term sufferers, I hope my short term question isn't a problem here. I feel much empathy for chronic sufferers!)

I’ve had a flu-like viral illness for about a week. I’ve been in bed for 5 days and my sinuses are congested. My inflammatory markers were tested and came back elevated, so I was prescribed amoxicilline.

I’m now about 48 hours into the antibiotic course, but I don’t really feel better yet. My main symptoms are pressure in my forehead, headache when I move and significant fatigue. I also feel generally ill, miserable and low in mood.

With paracetamol or ibuprofen it becomes somewhat more manageable, but I also want to see how I feel without painkillers.

This is day 8 of being ill and I barely see an upward trend in symptoms. Is it normal to be ill for this long? Without too much improvements? I started saline nasal rinses today. I rest, sleep, I'm home from work. Anything else I can do?

Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated.

I haven't been tested for the flu but I'm sure that what I have is more than a "regular" cold or respiratory virus.

Timeline:

- Tuesday: sore throat, muscles aching, feeling unwell but still working

- Tuesday - Wednesday night: fever

- Wednesday: in bed, coughing, heavy headaches, congested nose, exhausted

- Thursday: in bed, same as Wednesday

- Friday: in bed, same as days before

- Saturday: in bed, same as days before and sinuses are also congested now

I feel terrible, completely exhausted and I don't even have the energy to walk to the toilet. It's been a long time ago a virus hit me like this and I suffer from (health) anxiety and have a very hard time, physically and mentally. Is this still normal for a flu / respiratory virus?

I'm resting and hydrating but there's no improvement at all. I feel terrible. Please help :).

I know it needs weeks or months to work, but can it work within days? If this was the case for you, did it keep working at the same level or did your acne come back later?