hey guys, need some quick advice. my father (62) (aml) and done with two dec+ven cycles. his WBC is around 7+ rn, so not low. i’ve always heard fever = emergency in these patients due to the weak immune system. but is it still that serious if wbc counts are kinda normal?
do we rush to ER every time or can we wait and watch a bit? would really appreciate real experiences 🙏
Every time I decide to stay in and be productive, Lahore pulls me out again be it chai, food, or random drives that turn into full plans. And somehow, if you don’t go out, it feels like you missed something. Islamabad, on contrary, is opposite.
Is it just me or does this city have serious main character energy?
Hello! So I am trying to understand something about myself and I’d really appreciate honest perspectives.
I just broke up with my boyfriend two days ago, and the reason was pretty clear: I always prioritized myself. Not in an obvious, ‘I don’t care about you’ way but in a quiet, constant way where everything somehow revolved around me.
He was the kind of person who did everything for me. He showed up, he cared, he adjusted, he protected, he loved me in ways that were very real and consistent. And I… mostly just received it. I said all the right things like ‘I love you’, ‘I care about you’, ‘I’d do anything for you’. But when I look back, I don’t think I actually DID much for him.
Even now, I miss him and I want him back but if I’m being brutally honest, it still feels like it’s for MY own sake. Like I want him because of how he made ME feel, not because I was truly showing up for him the same way.
I also notice that I can be very possessive and kind of controlling in subtle ways. I want things my way, I want his attention, I want his presence but I don’t match that energy when it comes to his needs, his preferences, or his emotional space. And I think over time, that just exhausted him.
So now I’m sitting here trying to figure out what this actually is.
Is this just selfishness? Ego? Possessiveness? Some kind of attachment issue? Or just emotional immaturity?
I’m not trying to label myself harshly instead I just want to understand what this pattern is called, because I don’t want to keep repeating it.
Would really appreciate any insight, especially from people who’ve been on either side of something like this.l even if you were the victim.. or some professional? this could really help!