u/lolapaloozafunny

What is this forever virtual thing???

hi, I met a 30M at work. he works in HR and I'm a doctor in the same hospital. he's a catholic and associated with a ministry. I'm a different religion. Hindu.

he initiated the texts... constantly texted me and I didn't understand why he would want to talk to me being in HR. anyway, I responded to the texts since they were consistent and I gradually began liking talking to him. he would flirt too and compliment me. the strange part was he seemed very interested but never asked me for coffee.

I asked if we could grab coffee. he declined but continued to text me constantly. I didn't understand what he was playing at.

he said he'd never dated anyone in his life...slowly, none of his stories seemed consistent.

I thought he just needed time to warm up to the idea of dating?! I don't know why I was making excuses for him.

but what came next, confused me even more. please help me make sense of this. mind you he kept complimenting me incessantly throughout.

So eventually

He said he'll enter the arranged marriage market when they've finished re-building his family home in his hometown, which would take atleast another year. then he said his family wanted to introduce him to a match.

So I asked him if he saw the lady's picture then. He said why would I? I will only get interested if she's sensitive, beautiful like you....

in the beginning before we even got close, he said he had a crush where he was doing his MBA. But that girl left and got married to someone else. she gave him enough time to step up and find a job or get settled.

he would share videos of his church sermons etc and ask me if I go to a temple...and if I perform pooja on festivals.

after a few weeks...he began sexting.

Then he revealed he had an ex-gf of 6 years...who is looking for matches herself. And this happened exactly after the sexting. I felt cheated.

Before then it was the cousin he liked...the nurses...the matches....never an ex gf!!! How did she magically appear?!

Nothing makes sense with him.

Then I stopped talking to him and blocked him for a week. I said if he still had feelings for his ex while sexting me, I can't have that on my conscience especially if he hopes to get back with her.

So after a week he says he's not at all in touch with her and she may have gotten married. He said the same thing again when I asked after two weeks just to confirm.

Then we got into a fight about not meeting. I told him I felt like a virtual p\\\*rn machine and someone without a face. I asked him how come he has no desire to meet me after being so intimate on text and calls? So we met for dinner. and when he met me...he said his ex-gf is still not married and he's trying to tell his father about her....

he still won't meet me and says he's scared someone will see us.

what does he want?!

hi, I met a 30M at work. he works in HR and I'm a doctor in the same hospital. he's a catholic and associated with a ministry. I'm a different religion. Hindu.

he initiated the texts... constantly texted me and I didn't understand why he would want to talk to me being in HR. anyway, I responded to the texts since they were consistent and I gradually began liking talking to him. he would flirt too and compliment me. the strange part was he seemed very interested but never asked me for coffee.

I asked if we could grab coffee. he declined but continued to text me constantly. I didn't understand what he was playing at.

he said he'd never dated anyone in his life...slowly, none of his stories seemed consistent.

I thought he just needed time to warm up to the idea of dating?! I don't know why I was making excuses for him.

but what came next, confused me even more. please help me make sense of this. mind you he kept complimenting me incessantly throughout.

So eventually

He said he'll enter the arranged marriage market when they've finished re-building his family home in his hometown, which would take atleast another year. then he said his family wanted to introduce him to a match.

So I asked him if he saw the lady's picture then. He said why would I? I will only get interested if she's sensitive, beautiful like you....

in the beginning before we even got close, he said he had a crush where he was doing his MBA. But that girl left and got married to someone else. she gave him enough time to step up and find a job or get settled.

he would share videos of his church sermons etc and ask me if I go to a temple...and if I perform pooja on festivals.

after a few weeks...he began sexting.

Then he revealed he had an ex-gf of 6 years...who is looking for matches herself. And this happened exactly after the sexting. I felt cheated.

Before then it was the cousin he liked...the nurses...the matches....never an ex gf!!! How did she magically appear?!

Nothing makes sense with him.

Then I stopped talking to him and blocked him for a week. I said if he still had feelings for his ex while sexting me, I can't have that on my conscience especially if he hopes to get back with her.

So after a week he says he's not at all in touch with her and she may have gotten married. He said the same thing again when I asked after two weeks just to confirm.

Then we got into a fight about not meeting. I told him I felt like a virtual p\*rn machine and someone without a face. I asked him how come he has no desire to meet me after being so intimate on text and calls? So we met for dinner. and when he met me...he said his ex-gf is still not married and he's trying to tell his father about her....

he still won't meet me and says he's scared someone will see us.

what does he want?!