u/lilstarryfishh

recently a friend confronted me about something dumb i said 3 years ago which really affected her, now my initial intention when i said what i said was to just tease her since she was also teasing me. i told her that i didnt mean anything of it and i didnt realize how bad it would negatively impact her later.

we talked about it and i think it went well, so naturally id go back to acting normal, however shes been distancing from me alot lately and im not quite sure what to do. i deeply care for her and i dont want to lose my friendship, any thoughts on what i should do? i tried talking to her about it by saying “hey is everything ok you’ve been a bit distant lately?” and she responded with “yea everything’s fine” but shes still distant.

idk what to do in this situation any advice would help me alot thanks

hello! about 2 weeks ago ive gotten a vitrectomy, is it normal for my eye to still be swollen and red? also ive been getting constant headaches that make it impossible to relax sometimes. and its only on my upper right side of my eye (i got the procedure done on my right eye) also ive noticed my vision worsening. i now have astigmatism only on my right eye and im afraid im developing cataracts. i know after a vitrectomy there is a risk of cataracts but is chronic headaches and astigmatism also a side effect?

UPDATE ON MAY 12 2026:

ok so i checked with my doctor and he said the headaches are probably because of my glasses! the prescription of my right eye has changed and the more i use my glasses the more strain its putting on it, thankfully its nothing serious

I (16F) have retinal detachment, from what? i have no clue, i remember falling on my head and thinking nothing of it till a year later i started getting all the symptoms of retinal detachment such as a blind spot, floaters, flashing lights etc. when i got checked the doctor said its on both my eyes. ive done around 4 procedures total. on my right eye ive gotten a pneumatic retinopexy, followed up by a scleral buckle and recently a vitrectomy. on my left eye ive done only a scleral buckle with a gas bubble injected inside. these procedures were done all in the span of 6 months. the vitrectomys not working in my opinion, i still have a small tiny blind spot. luckily tomorrow i have a 2 week post op appointment but im scared the doctor checks my eye and says it cant be fixed. i feel like such a burden to my parents and to my friends. they already have too much on their plate and i dont wanna take up space by constantly mentioning my eye problems or my parents having to take care of me after surgery. i wish i was normal.

i just need some comfort from someone with a similar experience…also pls tell me if u think my eyes getting amputated im really scared for that