u/lilith_180

My boss is about to throw away a lot of pastries. Do you guys want some. There’s croissant, muffins, Danish etc. I'm on campus Edit: FSS building

I hate when people say I shouldn't let a degree define my life when it literally does define my life. I came to this country at 14 for this degree; I had to fucking endured harsh winters for this degree; I started working a job I despise to this day at 15 to help pay for my living expenses so that my dad will focus on paying my tuition only for this degree because that shits so expensive for an international student; I'm literally on antidepressants because of this degree, my future quite literally depends on this degree; I can't get a well paying job without this degree; I studied 4 years for this degree, 4 fucking years of my life. I'm not doing this for fun, we are talking about time and money wtf. So yeah my life is literally defined by it. Like telling me I have to change program in my 4th year isn't really just that easy or welcomed because wtf. I'm genuinely not okay wtf. I'm not. If there’s a God out there, you ain't shit I'm sorry.

Edit: I thought this was a university sub where students could come and vent. Guess I was wrong.

For the people asking for more context: I just finished my 4th year in my program, but I failed a mandatory chemistry course twice and had to retake it a third time. That third attempt involved ongoing administrative and grading issues, which is why my enrollment and graduation were paused instead of me being immediately withdrawn from the faculty. I’m currently still waiting for answers from the professor and faculty about what will happen next.

And for the people telling me I’m privileged because my parents pay my tuition: duh, I know. That’s literally part of why I’m freaking out. This whole degree cost my dad a lot of money, so obviously I don’t want to disappoint him or feel like all that sacrifice went to waste. I genuinely don’t understand why some of you act like having parents help financially suddenly means I’m not allowed to struggle, stress, complain, or feel overwhelmed. And I never said I have the hardest life on earth. I was venting about My situation. Some of you are clearly projecting whatever resentment or issues you have onto me. This isn’t a struggle Olympics.

And to the people who somehow turned this into a racist/immigrant issue, to the point of DMing me telling me to “go back to my country”: trust me, I’m planning to after getting this degree (Nothing wrong with Canada, I just can't do winter long-term. I'm adding that because I know some of you will jump on that to get mad too). I came here at 14 because my family made that choice for my future, not because I woke up one day dreaming of Canadian winters. And yes, the winters here are harsh. Even Canadians complain about them, so I don’t know why some of you got personally offended by that statement. I’m from a tropical country. Obviously the adjustment was difficult for me.

Anyways, I just wanted to add context since some people immediately jumped to calling me lazy, spoiled, dramatic, or not hardworking enough without knowing anything about the actual situation.

And thank you to the few people who were actually kind and understanding.