How do I stop getting burnt out from basic everyday things I have to do?
30NB (afab if it matters), autistic, ADHD, whole bunch of chronic illnesses.
How do I stop getting burnt out from basic everyday things (keeping my space clean, making phone calls, doctor appointments, socializing, cooking, shopping, and so on)? I'm at the point where I routinely have to take weeklong breaks from doing ANYTHING just because it feels like my body and brain hit a physical wall and I can't do anything else.
I go into a fullblown shutdown when that happens: I can't talk, everything starts to feel INCREDIBLY overstimulating, I lose interest in my usual interests and don't feel like anything's enjoyable (I do NOT have depression), and basically can't do anything other than shower and prepare food for myself, and even those feel like Sisyphean tasks. I've even started having meltdowns again, something that hasn't happened since I was 17 or 18. I do try to force myself to not lie around in bed all day and at least get on my computer and do some things, but it isn't helping.
My room is an absolute wreck because it gets messy when shutdown weeks happen and I have so much to do to play catchup with the daily-task stuff that doesn't get done then that I can't get around to cleaning my room completely, and then the next shutdown week makes it worse. It's messing up my relationship with my partner because they don't want to go into my room because they hate the mess.
I don't know why basic stuff everyone does in life feels like I'm having to climb Mount Everest, and the worst part is that this is even before I have a job, so I don't know how on earth I'm supposed to manage a job on top of all this.
Please help, literally anything would help. I'm so tired and sick of all this.