u/levijcalder — reddlx

I'm from Uindy looking to transfer because my title ix and student affairs people suck. I've been harassed and cyberstalked by students here and they tell me they'll get on it but its been several months with several follow ups and nothing.

Disability services: are they nice and kind with you? Do they seem to actually care about disabled students?

Student resources: other than actual therapy/counseling, are the people to talk to when somethings up but you dont need therapy? My school has the terry center for student support and I built a good relationship with the woman there and she likes to see how I'm doing every now and then.

Counseling: the therapists at uindy suck so bad. I have a regular therapist but I've popped in to the office before when I was having a crisis during operating hours. If I did that all ball state, would it be worth my time?

Financial aid: transferring is gonna suck because I have a full tuition scholarship and I'm not sure if there's something at ball state to replace it. Practically everyone and I mean everyone gets financial aid here, is it the same over there?

Housing: do you guys have dorms shared with roommates or suitmates, communal bathrooms or semi private ones, etc? Are all your halls double or are there single halls? What typically happens at uindy is freshmen are in the double dorms and after that you move to one of the halls full of single dorms.

Dining: my school has an awful dining hall and a restaurant like option and a grab n go, a little convenience store type thing. Are your dining options better? Like, if i wanted an actual meal do I have options? Can I find one? Or am I going to end up going to a bad dining hall and eating cold unseasoned chicken and rice?

For so many months ive been planning to bring Pickles to my dorm but after he got here I ultimately decided its best for him at home.

I finally got my cat registered with my school so he could live in my dorm. Took a lot of convincing but my mom agreed to let me have "visitation rights" where we'd swap for like half the week. I knew that entailed many car rides in the carrier so I was hoping I could prove to my mom that he loves my dorm and she'd agree on full custody.

Pickles actually does love my dorm but there are some things that make this not worth it.

-he chirps and meows excitedly when I come home after leaving even for a minute. This is cute when I leave to microwave something or go to the bathroom. When I come home from work I worry that hes so happy because he thought I abandoned him. I can't continuously make him feel so lonely and wondering.

-he loves my bed at night and I love personal space. For a while its been a soft rule in my house when I lived at home that Pickles does not come to my room when I sleep because half the time he begs to be inside and then scratches the door to get out and the other half he lays on my head all lovingly and then he starts bunny kicking me and will stop at nothing to kick me. Theres nowhere to put him in my dorm so he keeps waking me up and I keep trying to block him from getting on my pillows and growing frustrated

-his brother is so sad. He has a couple brothers and one sister but his best brother is Goopy. they are two peas in a pod. theyre thor and loki. they're two ends of a horse costume. I was willing to take Pickles for a few days and simply just see how goopy reacts. my mom told me that very quickly goopy took to walking around the housing and crying non stop. Pickles is doing great but goopy is heartbroken. I havent thought about it until just now, but I wonder if him or his other siblings are getting deja vu to when their other brothers just disappeared one day and never came back. Im not sure how kitty minds work but id do anything to keep them from being sad.

So, Pickles is going back home on Thursday when my mom can pick him up. And he won't return to my independent housing for a long time. The estimated timeline is 2029 when I graduate and get my own apartment with a door to my bedroom and space for two cats. The ability to keep Pickles away while I'm sleeping and to take goopy as well are absolutely non negotiable. Id love to say its all worth it because my cat brings me joy but I'm not sure my status as a full time student and part time worker will bring him joy and this brings goopy no joy. The best I can take away from this is that I know exactly what I need to do to make independent living with my cats go well in the future.