I’m new in the construction industry. Just as an individual I’ve always prided myself in being emotionally intelligent & lowkey not really giving a shit. Since I started my new job so many people have been wonderful but I had a problem with a couple.
One being someone on my team & another being a vendor I work with. I somehow always feel like I’m the asshole in the situation. My manager set me up with a plan to succeed because at the end everything will be coming back on to my desk. Every time I ask clarification questions to to one vendor he’ll say something like “fyi that’s wrong” “Actually we already addressed this” “thank you for ALL your clarifications” and I just get so pissed like what’s the snarky remarks for? I’m truly just trying to make this easier for all of us because I know this submittal will come back rejected. Then I try and keep the vendors in the loops with certain things and my coworker goes “he doesn’t care about that, yeah you’ll just fuck up our relationship.” I told him I’m just doing what xyz told me to do but since you know them better than me just tell me.
He will constantly get irritated with any questions I ask, roll his eyes, make remarks like “this is so fucking stupid” (not to me but for example like a document we’re looking at together) and I just get so pissed like why do you act like I’m the biggest burden ever. I constantly reiterate to him I know you have a ton of shit and I do too but xyz is going to be affected if we don’t do xyz how do you want to proceed then the huffing & puffing, eye rolls, etc.
I’m starting to wonder if I should just back off and do my own shit & not proactively help. On the other hand I like asking questions and learning. Am I too sensitive?