u/just_a_box_of_sneks

Unsure about my mothers behaviour to me as a child / teenager

I (23) am currently going through the diagnostic process for (C)PTSD with a therapist for a lot of different issues from my childhood but i'm a little hung up on whether the way my mother treated me would be considered CI. here's a rambling list of some memories that have come back to me in recent months.

firstly, my parents would often walk around naked in the house / shower with the door open but that's not really all that serious i think. i feel it's relevant because when i was a teenager my mother would yell at me for covering up after i took a bath because it would teach my little brother to be ashamed of his own body(?). on the one hand i get that you wouldn't want to be too sex negative as a parent but on the other hand it went a little far.

when i was very young (under 10) she shared a lot of private information with me that i wouldn't consider appropriate to tell your child. she also often vaguely told me about her sex life, like how she and her friend always slept naked together and almost(?) had sex when they were drunk.

my mother was borderline obessed with giving me sex ed / talking about sex before i hit puberty. when i was around 8-10 years old she wanted me to watch them have sex (to teach me) and even though i refused she only gave it up because my dad didn't want to go through with it.

also around the same time when i was a little older (10-12?) she, being deep into new age spiritual bullshit, made me go through a ritual that involved a sexual element where she made me hold my genitals and promise / swear that i would bring people happiness and pleasure with them / my body.

when i was older (17-18) i started doing art commissions for friends but when they found out i was earning money for myself and had a paypal account they were CONVINCED i had to be doing online sex work, so under threat of evicting me they made me go through every file on my computer to prove i had no sexual images of myself on there / was selling that kind of content online. i have no idea why that was their first thought.

there are other things that happened but the memories are too vague to write them out for now

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u/just_a_box_of_sneks — 1 day ago